We all cling to images of ourselves that we have stored up in our minds year after year. Some are good, some bad. But images we have stored can’t substitute for the real thing that is vital and alive. The image that’s constantly changing, shifting at every moment in our life.
The real self is elusive, always one step ahead of us, dissolving instantly when you think you understand your real self. The thing that is most me, is often the thing I never see. To understand your real self, you have to keep up as it moves. Finding the real you happens when you lease suspects it because unconscious tendencies keep working in the background. There are two claims to ultimate reality. One claim comes from the physical world, where events have definite causes and effects. The second claim comes from absolute Being, which has no cause. Only one claimant can be right because there’s no such thing as two ultimate realities.
10 irrational/unconscious thoughts people fall victim to:
1. Mistakes are never acceptable. If I make one, it means that I am incompetent.
2. When somebody disagrees with me, it is a personal attack against me.
3. To be content in life, I must be liked by all people.
4. My true value as an individual depends on what others think of me.
5. If I am not involved in an intimate relationship, I am completely alone.
6. There is no grey area. Success is black and failure is white.
7. Nothing ever turns out the way you want it to.
8. If the outcome was not perfect, it was a complete failure.
9. I am in absolute control of my life. If something bad happens, it is my fault.
10. The past always repeats itself. If it was true then, it must be true now.