When I was younger I often felt “not good enough” to be friends, lovers,etc. with certain people. Sometimes I simply couldn’t understand what others saw in me. I was very insecure.
I ended many promising relationships because of my insecurity. In my mind, it felt easier for me to end it before they did. Walking away rather than risking the heartbreak of rejection was how I justified my behavior to myself. But after awhile, as I grew emotionally, I began to realize that I wanted and needed the comfort and support of long-term relationships.
So what did I do, and what you can do if insecurity is damaging your relationships?
1) Stop reading mind.
Most relationship problems are social anxieties start with bad communication, which leads to trying mind reading. Mind reading occurs when two people assume that they know what the other is thinking when they don’t. This…