Every human has four endowments – self awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom… The power to choose, to respond, to change. ~Stephen Covey

Let’s Talk Independence!


Today the United States of American celebrates it 240th Independence. Despite gaining it’s independence 240 years ago, like so many other countries around the world who boasts of being independent; they rely heavily on other countries for support through certain treaties on immigration, trade, and free movement of people…..

Being an independent person is much  the same. I’ve always been offended at the fact that being an independent woman is synonymous with being a self reliant, self sufficient female. The old cliche of “being a strong independent woman” somehow always rubbed me the wrong way for the mere fact that independent women, are often looked at as being difficult, bitter, lonely  women who more often than not prefer being a loner. I consider myself an independent woman, and personally see these as just labels. We all, both men and women can be difficult at times and prefer to do somethings alone. However, this does not set the standards of our existence, it does not define us.

While there are many advantages of being independent, it in no way mean that you have to ‘fly’ solo. Even the most independent person is never alone, in their individuality they rely on others for some sort of support.

Being truly independents simply means you identify with your needs; that you are able to take care of your own needs,  make and assume responsibility for your decisions while considering those of others around you. But more importantly it means asking for HELP when you need it, whether in your personal, or social  life or at work.

‘No man is an island.’ Even one of the most powerhouse of a country in the world, is not totally independent. So don’t feel badly is you’ve proclaimed independence and still find yourself relying on others for some sort of support. Whether it’s financial, emotional or friendship, admitting you’re in need of support is not a sign of weakness, but a true sign of coming to into you own as an individual.

Wear your independence with pride, accepting your oneness. Take charge of your life without being defined by anyone.

~Have a Meaningful Monday everyone…..

©Etta D. Richards