“At the heart of personality is the need to feel a sense of being lovable without having to qualify for that acceptance.” ~ Paul Tournier
A loveable person is someone who is natural, comfortable with himself or herself, radiating the simple, unaffected humanity that makes everyone attractive and it’s this attractiveness that can lead to romance. Romance can blossom from a quick glance across a crowded room or a kind gesture. It begins when you show your soul to another, and can easily strike up a wonderful relationship between two strangers. Romance can also begin when you find your loveable soul and accept that it’s not only important to give love, but also to love yourself blooming a relationship of courage, self-esteem and self-worth.
Sounds easy enough right? Then why is it that people don’t feel loveable? Simply put, those people find themselves caught up in the anxious search for love because they themselves don’t feel loveable, so the condition that would make for romance is absent. It’s sad to say, but many people have never felt loveable, they’ve entered relationships, have expressed love. Yet they lack the feeling of being loveable because being lovably is a quality of spirit. It’s not superficial, it comes from within. Deep within the soul! Not many people dig that far within themselves to find it. Seeing yourself as spirit comes with conditioning, whether you were raised with loving values or learned them along the way, they will resonate, projecting your soul’s value. It won’t matter if you were discouraged or made to feel ugly and worthless your loving qualities will always be there, it’s up to you to maintain that.
Remember, in our innermost being, we are all loveable. Beyond what anyone tries to make you think or feel about yourself, if you become unbothered by all the negativity, your unconditioned spirit will stand firm, shining with love through any adversity life tosses at you. The only secret to attraction is first knowing who you are and shifting your perception of what being loveable means.
~ Have a Wonderful Wednesday.
©Etta D. Richards