“You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and twice as capable as you have ever imagined.”
My life has become an open book, I’ll be the first to admit that in past relationships, intimate, family and friendships, I was emotionally weak; maybe not in the desperate, silly teenage sense of the word, but I blamed the other person for my happiness, my sadness and fulfilling my emotional needs.
It’s easy to fall into this trap when you think that family is supposed to look after you. When you’ve shared a friendship for years and misconstrue the relationship. Intimate relationships are an easy target for emotional meltdowns because you’re giving a part of your soul to that person and you expect them to coddle it while continuously massaging your ego. Thankfully all that has changed for the best, a few years ago, well six years to be exact, I found myself and it made a world of difference. Instead of looking to others for my shortcomings, I looked within.
Emotional weakness not only takes a toll on your relationships but also on you as an individual. It drains you both mentally and physically. There are four distinct difficulties that come with emotional weakness:
It creates relationship problems, because if the other person’s behaviour isn’t satisfying YOUR needs. It builds anger and resentment in you.
You become unhappy because you’re looking for happiness outside yourself and expecting other people to somehow fill your self-love deficit.
You feel stuck if other people don’t live up to your expectation of fulfilling your needs in making you happy or feeling loved.
You get hurt often. If the person you’re looking to for love falls short. You haven’t a clue as to what is necessary to fill that void left behind because you’re too self-absorbed emotionally to find out and too busy blaming them for your emotional well-being.
How do you measure up emotionally in your relationships, do any of these points resonate with you? Are you thinking carefully enough to identify with any of these points? You have an entire weekend to reevaluate your relationships and figure out your emotional stability.
©Etta D. Richards