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“As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.”   ~Andrew Carnegie

I’ve always admired people who have managed to hold on to their success. Not only hold on to it but who were consistent in their success. In entertainment, people like Sydney Poiter and Oprah Winfrey. In business, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Andrew Carnegie and Jack Ma. In actually I think it’s honest to say I’m even fascinated by Andrew Carnegie the young Scot who emigrated to America with his parents and became a steel magnate .

Curious about how they garnered the ideas that led to their success. I’ve studied these people through reading books about them, their biographies, watching interviews, and have done numerous research online about them. The one thing all of these people have in common is that they were not born into wealth or success; they simply had the drive to do all the things to helped them achieve their full potential. In addition to that, they also surrounded themselves with people who encouraged their success, whether is was their spouse, a close friend or parents. There was always someone in their corner cheering them on.

They were selective in the people they had in their lives, they chose people that would help them evolve. This is very important in any relationship, especially when you, yourself are trying to reach your full potential. You have to remember that not everyone is going somewhere. Some people are quite happy being parked up a tree, shooting the breeze.

This played in a video I watched over the weekend and I immediately searched the internet for the script because I felt it was a must share. I’ve written a lot about personal development, self-improvement, success, motivation, friendship, personal growth and so many other topics to inspire your inner self. I’m hoping anyone reading this can take away something from it as I have.This reminded me so much of ‘Desiderata’ by Max Ehrmann, the words in this speech can easily be converted to Mantras.


“The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve.
Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An
important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative
thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will
change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you
to stay where they are. Friends that don’t help you climb will want you to
crawl. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that
don’t increase you will eventually decrease you.”

Consider this:
Never receive counsel from unproductive people. Never discuss your problems
with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who
never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how. Not everyone has
a right to speak into your life. You are certain to get the worst of the
bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person. Don’t follow anyone
who’s not going anywhere.

With some people you spend an evening, with others you invest it. Be careful
where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. Wise is the
person who fortifies his life with the right friendships. If you run with
wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you
will learn how to soar to great heights.
“A mirror reflects a man’s face, but what he is really like is shown by the
kind of friends he chooses.”

The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you
closely associate – for the good and the bad.

Note: Be not mistaken. This is applicable to family as well as friends.
Yes…do love, appreciate and be thankful for your family, for they will
always be your family no matter what. Just know that they are human first
and though they are family to you, they may be a friend to someone else and
will fit somewhere in the criteria above.

“In Prosperity Our Friends Know Us. In Adversity, We Know Our friends.”

“Never make someone a priority when you are only an option for them.”
“If you are going to achieve excellence in big things,you develop the habit in little matters.
Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude..”..”
~Colin Powell


~Happy Tuesday

©Etta D. Richards 2016

16 thoughts on “Terrific Tuesday-Who Are You Associating With?

  1. “If you run with
    wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you
    will learn how to soar to great heights.” —> My favorite! People are always talking about running the pack or what not, but it is about rising above that. Very inspiring post, Etta!

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    1. So true Joanna. Over the years I’ve met so many people, especially co-workers, who just complain all day long instead of focusing on their potential or helping other achieve theirs.

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      1. It’s sad, isn’t it? So much of life wasted grumbling. I’m studying Philippians in the Bible and the verse I chose to memorize this week is: “Do all things without grumbling or disputing, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world.” I want to be that kind of light to this world!

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      2. That’s a powerful passage. Same here I want to be a beacon in the world. I’ve reached a point where I can’t be around negative people anymore, it hurts my spirit.

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