“I think it’s very important that you make your own decision about what you are. Therefore you’re responsible for your actions, so you don’t blame other people.” ~ Prince William
Let’s face it, it’s human nature to look for faults in other, especially those who have something you’d like to have. There’s this friend who relentlessly complains about and points out the faults in her job, her boss and co-workers. My advice to her was, find a new job, which will bring a new boss and colleagues.
Needless to say what I said only upset her more. Her response was. If I leave my job, then what?? How will I live? Who will pay my bills?
“We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers – but never blame yourself. It’s never your fault. But it’s always your fault, because if you wanted to change you’re the one who has got to change.” ~Katharine Hepburn
Have you ever notice that people who often complain about something, their job, marriage or relationships, car, etc., often don’t want it to be taken away? Taking away any of these things leaves them with nothing to complain about. I’ve come to realise that not everyone who has a problem is looking for a solution to that problem because they love the attention that comes with it, they love having an audience and the sympathy of anyone who will entertain them. If they have nothing to complain about they no longer have anything to draw attention to themselves. People who find faults in everything, often fail to realise that they are the problem. They finding faults in everything like they’re being rewarded for the amount of complaints they can make in a single day.
Remember the thing you criticise in others says more about you than it does about them. Pay attention those faults you’re finding in others. Then think about what it is that YOU need to work on in yourself. By focusing the positive you Focusing on positive keeps your vibe positive. So the next time you’re tempted to find faults in someone or something else, consciously remind yourself that there is good in everything.
~ Happy Wednesday
©Etta D. Richards