“If you look for perfection, you’ll never be content.”
― Leo Tolstoy
Yesterday was a perfect end to a perfect weekend! Well, the weekend wasn’t exactly perfect, we had a clear blue sky but it was freezing; there was also patches of rain during the afternoon. Then on Saturday we decided to change our routine and try a new restaurant and was somewhat disappointed in the meal. The food was tasty, but the portions and presentation left much to be desired. My perfect weekend would be spent on the beach feeling the warm sand under my feet, feasting on some Bahamian delight. But ask Mitzy if she had a perfect weekend, she’d probably say yes because instead of a walk in the park we went Salmon watching at “Pots of Gartness.” No doubt that her perfect weekend involves discovering new places, chasing squirrels and rabbits.
We all have these fantasies about how our lives should be, how perfect we want our lives. There’s nothing wrong in fantasising about living a different life or a better life, even successful people fantasise about a life different from the one they’re living. A life where ALL of their investments are profitable and the stock market is always up. Your perfect life may simply be one where friends, family and relationships are without disagreements or prejudices.
The list of perfection we expect of ourselves and those around us is often endless because our expectations change according to our wants and needs.
Suffice to say in the miracle of life, there are many flaws and human beings are one of them as we seek perfection at almost turn in our lives. Perfection by definition is a myth. We have programmed into our psyche this false perception and expectation of how life should be and the meaning of perfection. When in reality perfection can mean different things to different people. A perfect day to my dog often isn’t a perfect one to me.
The “miraculous” part of life happens when we accept that life isn’t perfect nor are we. There is no perfect thing you need to accomplish in order to be happy. No perfect relationship to decide on marriage. No perfect day to decide on taking an adventure.
We all face disappointments. To get past them is to leave them behind, accept that this moment you’re living is all that counts and only you can decide if it’s perfect or not. You can continue watering the seeds of disappointment or accept the moment as a perfect opportunity to plant new ones.
Accept perfection for what it is, a figment of your imagination and a false sense of security.
~©Etta D. Richards