I gave myself permission to feel and experience all of my emotions. In order to do that, I had to stop being afraid to feel. In order to do that, I taught myself to believe that no matter what I felt or what happened when I felt it, I would be okay. ~Iyanla Vanzant
As a child you were taught to seek permission from your parents, grandparents and elders for everything, it was an important part of your upbringing. Seeking permission meant you were well behaved and could follow instructions.
You needed permission to:
Leave the dinner table before finishing dinner
Go outdoors to play
To have a snack
At school, you needed permission from your teacher to go to the toilets
When you become adults sometimes it’s hard for us to move away from this conditioning, especially if you find yourself in a toxic relationship or toxic work environment. I agree, there are still some things that you should seek permission for. It’s not ok to touch anyone without their permission. It’s not ok to take something that belongs to someone else or to invade someone else’s space without permission. As adults, seeking permission just boils down to common sense and respect.
However, you are your own person now and there are certain things that you may want to give yourself permission for.
1. Give yourself permission to take breaks- We all need a break from the norm. Break the rules and have some fun!
2. Give yourself permission to laugh-Why? Because laughter is good for the soul.
3. Give yourself permission to make mistakes-Mistakes are a learning experience, not failures.
4. Give yourself permission to say “no” to demands on your time that are simply draining-Learn to say NO and mean it!
5. Give yourself permission to remove toxic people from my life-Do it and do it NOW!
6. Give yourself permission to say “yes” to what you want-Say yes to the world because you deserve all that life has to offer.
7. Give yourself permission to go on adventures-Yes!! This is a must. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all (Hele Keller)
8. Give yourself permission be imperfect-Life isn’t perfect and neither are you. Your imperfections are what makes you perfect!
©Etta D. Richards