You don’t need more motivation. You don’t need to be inspired to action. You don’t need to read any more lists and posts about how you’re not doing enough.

We act as if we can read enough articles and enough little Pinterest quotes and suddenly the little switch in our brain will put us into action. But, honestly, here’s the thing that nobody really talks about when it comes to success and motivation and willpower and goals and productivity and all those little buzzwords that have come into popularity: you are as you are until you’re not. You change when you want to change. You put your ideas into action in the timing that is best. That’s just how it happens.


And what I think we all need more than anything is this: permission to be wherever the fuck we are when we’re there.


You’re not a robot. You can’t just conjure up motivation when you don’t have it. Sometimes you’re going through something. Sometimes life has happened. Life! Remember life? Yeah, it teaches you things and sometimes makes you go the long way around for your biggest lessons.


You don’t get to control everything. You can wake up at 5 a.m. every day until you’re tired and broken, but if the words or the painting or the ideas don’t want to come to fruition, they won’t. You can show up every day to your best intentions, but if it’s not the time, it’s just not the fucking time. You need to give yourself permission to be a human being.


Huffington Post: To Anyone Who Thinks They’re Falling Behind In Life

7 thoughts on “To Anyone Who Thinks They’re Falling Behind In Life

  1. This is so true. And the irony is that, when we just accept our imperfections and where we are, progress often starts to happen organically. There’s something about taking the pressure off ourselves that makes us more effective in general.

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  2. Thank you…I’m an old guy but still recognize truth perspective when expressed. How are all the motivational cliches suppose to work?
    I hope for people and believe in the collective of those who dare to lean in and write original thoughts and feelings. Some require an internal govenor/editor but usually over time integrity prevails over harem-scarem.
    I fear original thought is endangered by the armchair climb for social celebrity. Re-posts of catch phrases and ‘eastern’ quick fix syllogisms do nothing to introduce a ‘seeker’ to self or enlighten true character. [ I wanted to use ‘ authenticity ‘ here but as of late I feign] I see a line that can position a ‘post-er’ as a motivational smarty type pundantor. I do not believe you, Etta, have approached this territory. THX.

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    1. Hi Ron, thanks for sharing such thoughtful insights on this post.

      But I think society suffers from ‘microwave syndrome’ where everything is expected to happen instantaneous 😉


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