” I don’t think Christmas is necessarily about things. It’s about being good to one another, it’s about the Christian ethic, it’s about kindness.” ~ Carrie Fisher
Here are my thoughts about Christmas!!
Five years ago my husband and I blended our crazy family together. We had 5 kids between the two of us and they had parents in 3 other households besides ours. Two of the kids being a state away. Doesn’t exactly make for a quick, easy commute to pick up all the kids for the Holidays. That very first year I remember feeling disappointed that we didn’t have all of our kids for Christmas Day. As the years have gone on, though, I don’t even think twice about it.
We don’t ever have any of the kids for Christmas Eve. Well, I guess that isn’t altogether true. We have our son, who is 4 years old, who has no other house to travel between. He is always with us! So it is always just the three of us for Christmas Eve and for first thing Christmas morning. I could be sad and pout about the fact that we don’t get to see the kids open their presents on Christmas morning. Or that we don’t ever get them, but what good would that do? We have found something that works for us and for our family and that is what we do each year. We have found our holiday groove. Typically we pick up the rest of the kids on the 26th. They come home from their other parent’s house and then they stay with us for 1 week.
We may never have them for Christmas Eve or Christmas Day, but we nearly always have them for New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day. New Year’s Eve is our Anniversary, so we love having people over to our house for a big celebration. It just makes sense to have the kids with us, as they were there on our wedding day and our Anniversary is a celebration for our whole family. Santa comes, when Santa comes. Not a single one of them question it, feel weird about it or complain. They understand that because they are in different households, things just have to work differently at our house. This year we won’t be having our “Christmas Morning” until New Year’s Eve. Due to how the holidays fall and work schedules, we had to shift things a bit this year. You know what? That is OK!
It keeps the magic and the spirit of Christmas alive a little bit longer. Working it out like this makes co-parenting so much easier. We all can make our plans and keep our traditions strong. No one feels like they are “fighting” to get the kids for the holidays. This is what works for us and for our family. Our Christmas looks different than yours, but we are OK with that.
**This blog was submitted by Holiday Guest Blogger Stephanie Visotsky