“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
There’s nothing in the world more frightening than truly being in love. Everyone yearns for it, a love so deep and romantic it knocks you off of your feet. Love is the greatest gamble you’ll ever take because it makes you vulnerable and its uncertainty brings fear, this fear is why people fall in love with others before they truly fall in love with themselves.
Being in love with another gives you a safety net of sorts, you put your trust in that person and if or when the relationship ends, you have someone else to blame. Being in love with oneself brings a greater passion and purpose, it means you can love someone else that much more. However, being in love with yourself also means you are responsible for your own happiness, a task a lot of people rather give to someone else. Being in love with yourself also means creating a life for yourself and not having someone else create one for you.
“You can’t find true love with someone else, until you find it within yourself.” — Dajon Ferrell
Loving Yourself Means…
Refining your goals
If your goals don’t excite you and scare you, they’re not big enough. Set goals that go beyond what you thought was possible for yourself.
Believing in you
This is the only skill that can not be taught to you, believing in your possibilities. You’ve got to believe that each tomorrow will be better than today and that your possibilities are endless and tangible.
Live with intensity
Live out loud or stay home! Invest in yourself, perfect what you do. Put everything you’ve got into everything you do and then do it with gusto. Be just a little stronger; a little wiser; a little more patient with yourself, you are a work in progress, as you improve yourself you will progress further than you ever thought possible.
Demanding integrity from yourself
Integrity is like loyalty and you have to lead by example, by being what you wish from others brings it to you. Be the person you would fall in love with. Self-love is the highest form of integrity, if you’re a good example of integrity you’ll always have people around you who are the same.
©Etta D. Richards