“A dream is what you desire if anything and everything is possible.” ~ Matt Yates
I was recently asked advice on finding your dream. Everyone is an individual in their own rights, thinking differently, approaching life from different angles; however, based on what I was taught, what I’ve read, and through self-discovery, we each have our dreams. Whether to realize it or not and I can probably give over a dozen ways on how one can discover their dream. It all begins with first knowing what exactly a dream is and no it’s not “a wish your heart makes!”
Daydreaming about a better life is NOT your dream, it’s merely distractions from whatever it is you’re trying to escape from in your life. Living your life through someone else’s ideals isn’t your dream either. Waiting for Prince Charming to sweep you off your feet. While it’s a nice thought, it’s not a realistic dream. I feel one of the biggest misconception about finding your dream, is believing that getting a promotion, making more money will bring happiness. Yeah, it will for a while, but after you’ve bought that house, fancy car, and maybe, just maybe that boat, that’s if your promotion was big enough. There will still be something missing. You will still have that burning desire for MORE!!
Why?? Because that DREAM is still inside you. A dream is something we were all born with, whether we choose to believe that or not, it really is. It was imprinted ……. planted in your souls. It’s an unwavering pursuit of the realization of your true potential and purpose in this life and not the pursuit of something society has moulded you to be. It’s your vision of the future, the vision that lights a spark in your soul, building your emotions so much so that you are willing to do anything to achieve it. When something brings those overpowering emotions to the surface, then you know THAT is your dream…..I’ve fulfilled a few of my own dreams, while still pursuing others because I don’t feel that I’ve reached my full potential.
My five cents on finding your dream:
1. What do you enjoy doing?
Some people call them hobbies- This doesn’t just mean collecting model aeroplanes or knitting— it means anything you do in your spare time that brings you joy. That could be collecting comic books, photography, finding information on the web, writing a blog, writing poetry, short stories, cooking, whatever brings you happiness. It’s evident that this brings you satisfaction because this is how you like to spend your free time and you’re willing to do these things without pay. It’s very possible that these are your passions, surprisingly, some people have more than one. Make a list of your hobbies, think carefully about whether or not it’s something you truly LOVE doing and make a living doing it. Orville Redenbacher made a living selling Popcorn, Colonial Saunders sold Chicken.
2. Talents……. Talents……..Talents!
We all have Them. What’s yours? As the saying goes, “each of us has at least ONE, and the true purpose of life is to discover that gift and share it with our fellow man.” I guess it’s a gift we were born with in the event that all else failed, when I say all else failed, I mean you pretending to love your job or you trying someone else’s talents to see if they will work for you. You can give up our day job and fall forward on our talent to keep us going. What are you good at? What talents do you have? What have you shown an aptitude for in your current and previous jobs, in school, or your personal life?
3. What is your element?
The beach, the ocean, the forest, travel, or the back yard?, These are all important factors that can point you to your dream. Whatever environment speaks to you, can lead you to your dream.
4. Create a clear vision!
Clarity of vision is the key to achieving your dream once you’ve discovered it. Take some time to think about exactly what your dream is, what your dream job would be, how you see yourself doing it, where you are, what you’re surrounded by, who you’re working with, what tools you’re using, the benefits to you and others. Write it down, and try to make it as clear as possible. You should be able to visualize this dream in your head. The more real it seems in your mind, the more likely it is that it will become reality.
5. Create a roadmap!
Once you’ve clearly visualize where you’re headed, all that’s left is creating a map for getting to that destination. Try reverse planning: what’s the last step you’d have to do before attaining your goal? What would the last step be before that step? Keep going backwards until you get to the first step. Then focus all your efforts on that first there!
Sometimes there are crossroads. Don’t panic, brainstorm a some of the ideas for getting there and the actions you can take to move yourself closer to your destination. Create a neat little package, and there you have your roadmap. Even if you don’t have a complete roadmap, having a clearly defined destination and taking the first step towards that, is enough to get you started on the right track.
7. Do research!
When you plan a trip to somewhere you’ve never visited before, the first thing most of us usually do is find out as much as we possibly can about that place. Do your homework, Learn as much as you can about your dream. Read books from the library(yes people still do this), surf the web, talk to others who are knowledgeable in that particular field. Become an expert on the topic. After all, it is your dream!
8. Practice……. Practice…….Practice!
Michael Jordan never would’ve won all those Championships without practice! While you’re taking your steps to realizing your dream, practice your passion as much as possible. Practice doesn’t make you perfect, but it will make you better…. Do your dream justice by being as good as it as you humanly can. No one said it was going to be easy. But it will be POSSIBLE and well worth it!
9 Get inspired!
Again Find knowledgeable people, others who are trying to achieve success just as you are, see what roadblocks they faced along the way, and how they’ve overcome them. Put up photos from magazines to inspire you, create a vision board(this worked for me). Read motivational quotes. If you’re inspired, you will have the energy needed to get there.
Quick question…..This is a question I pose to a lot of people who complain about nothing having time to pursue their dream or are complaining about their current job. If money were no object and there was a 100% guarantee you’d be successful, what would be you doing?
© Etta D. Richards