We don’t accomplish anything in this world alone… and whatever happens is the result of the whole tapestry of one’s life and all the weavings of individual threads from one to another that creates something. YOU! ~YNT © 2009
We should all be so lucky to have a support group, people we can exchange ideas with, people who will encourage us to pursue our goals. All of us have a fundamental need of belonging. Since our first day of school- Pre-School, Primary, High School, we longed to be a part of a group and be accepted. It’s human nature to want that connection as such we should pursue that longing.
“Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.” ~Jane Howard
In looking for your tribe, clan, external family, be certain to surround yourself with people who will accept you for who you are, people who will wish the very best for you and make you feel great about yourself. These people should also be willing to help when you’re going through difficult times, providing you with a sense of support.
Some insights to help you find your clan, tribe or support group
1. Think of the qualities you want you’re looking for in those people you wish to spend your time with. Loyalty, Trustworthiness, respect for themselves and others.
2. Decide what you will spend time doing with these people. Discussing business opportunities, hanging out, lending support, looking for support, book club, health and wellness, bird watching. Maybe looking for a writing partner.
3. Look for community events where you are, they offer great ways to meet new people and start a group.
4. Create rituals that you can share with your new collective like dinner and a movie, afternoon meet ups, if you have group members in another town or country, schedule chat-ins via Skype or some other social media platform.
5. Remember that these people will have a great impact on your life, from your level of income, Les Brown said your income will equal that of your five closest friends, to your personal development. In addition, our subconsciousness has a tendency to model the behaviour of those we hang out with, which means the people you associate with will also contribute to your level of happiness and behaviour. So choose wisely who you share your time with.
6. Be as beneficial to your group as they will be to you. Don’t just take away from your group, but also contribute to building the lives of those who prove themselves worthy of your grouping.
I’ve built and continue to build a network of like-minded people, some of which are living in different countries throughout Europe. We may be divided by distance, but are connected by our common goals and friendship.
~ Happy Friday
©Etta D. Richards