Think about what people are doing on Facebook today. They’re keeping up with their friends and family, but they’re also building an image and identity for themselves, which in a sense is their brand. ~ Mark Zuckerberg
I some time view photos of couples on social media with a side eye, not in a bad way but for me, the over sharing of “couples photos” gives a sense of superficiality. Don’t get me wrong, I have indulged in the practice of showing off my significant other and so has he but we don’t chronicle our couple or family life on social media. For me it’s a matter of establishing my own space, we both have our own social media spaces in which we share things we like as an individual. There are things we share a passion for as a couple and what is shared or not shared on the internet is mutually agreed upon.
You can agree or disagree with me on this but establishing and maintaining your personal space is essential to understanding who you are an individual. Obsessive posting of photos of you with your significant other on social media can put a crunch on your identity making it difficult for people to appreciate who you are.
In addition to maintaining your individual identity self-sufficiency means having more free time for yourself. We’ve been conditioned to spend every waking moment engaged in doing something. This isn’t always true, there are times during the day that our brain needs time to dream, explore and recharge from the daily grinds of life. There are times when you need that quietness to really reflect on who you and what you truly want.
Being assertive-You can’t make EVERYONE happy! Trust me I’ve tried it. Putting the feelings of others in front of yours takes the focus away from your needs and wants. Assertiveness is a trait that can combat emotional dependency, it conveys the stance that your feelings and opinions are just as important as others. Telling people NO brings with it more respect from others while helping you become more emotionally independent because you no longer live in fear of disappointing those around you. Remember-“those who mind don’t matter and those who matter won’t mind.”
Everyone should try to achieve the beautiful behaviour of self-sufficiency. It allows you maintain relationships without being completely dependent on that relationship by allowing you to embrace your thoughts and establish your healthy habits.
“©Etta D. Richards