“Emotional hurt, you gotta let that go. Walk away and let it be. So many highs and lows, but if you keep being down, you’ll never get up.” ~ Micky Ward
It’s easy to want to lash out when we’ve been hurt, letting anger, aggression and bitterness get the best of us; when someone hurt you the automatic response is to hurt them back, to make them feel the same pain you felt. At the time it may seem impossible to relinquish all that pain, to get out of the negativity brought on by someone else.
It’s important to recognise your feelings during moments of hurt or aversion, repressing your feelings means that they can pop up again and again. It also bonds you emotionally to the person who hurt you by creating a movie in your mind that plays that hurt scene over and over. Rehashing the initial hurt which makes it difficult to heal and move on.
Getting over that slump, cutting the script and shut down that painful mind movie.
1. People hurt others because they are in pain themselves. It all goes back to misery loves company. look at yourself, when you’re in a good mood the whole world is smiling. One bad mood and it’s all out WW3. You’re feeling stressed and care nothing about the feeling of anyone else.
2. No one can hurt you without your permission. Hurt me! Said no one ever. I’ve never met anyone who likes being hurt or wanted to be hurt. Have you? Never give anyone permission to hurt you. If someone feels that they need to release their anger, let them find another address to deliver that anger, walk away and leave them yelling at thin air.
3. Don’t contribute to the situation. There are 3 sides to every story. Your side, their side and the truth! Consider your side of the argument, how much fuel did you add to the wood pile before striking the match?
4. Kill’em with kindness. No, this doesn’t mean you have to lay down and play dead by becoming a casualty of the stampede. Don’t walk around with that hurt like a piece of jewellery or luggage. Let go of that negativity, replace it with kindness, compassion and move on. If the person doesn’t want to accept, you’ve done your part.
©Etta D. Richards