“Pleasure of love lasts but a moment. Pain of love lasts a lifetime.”
This is my submission to Debbie’s Forgiving Friday series, where she writes about and invite others to share their thoughts on Forgiveness, Self-Love and Personal Growth.
I hate falling in love. I hate the feeling of constant butterflies in my stomach, I want to not be filled with so much uncertain of emotions; all the highs and lows of the initial attraction. But do love being in love, just wished you were given a manual at birth with the name of our soulmate inscribed on its cover and when we’re both ready he finds me or I find him.
Even if you’ve found your soulmate, think back to when you two first met. The emotional roller coaster, that lovesick feeling you got when the two of you were a part. Women nurturers making us more vulnerable to the sting of love. But once you’ve passed those initial stages of butterflies and heart palpitations, love is a wonderful thing. Whether you’re in love, looking for love or have found your soulmate. Don’t let him consume you…..
If he does not call go to sleep.
If he does not message put your phone away and have a fantastic day anyway.
If he acts distant when you are with him and refuses to tell you what is wrong, don’t wait for him, go home and do something you love.
If he tries to insinuate you do not need your friends now that you have him spend more time with your friends.
If he tries to teach you a lesson through the silent treatment ignore him completely.
If he plays with your feelings constantly walk away from him.
If he acts like your body is his entitlement when you are not ready, walk away from him.
If he says terrible unforgivable things and threatens to leave you after every argument, walk away from him.
If he forbids you from doing anything you love walk away from him.
If he claims ownership of your accomplishments walk away from him.
If he demeans you or disrespects your being a girl and refuses to stop when you tell him it hurts, walk away from him.
I cannot stress this enough, you live for yourself first he is a secondary character in the story of your life do not allow him to turn you into a secondary character in your own book
These are some wonderful reminders from Nikita Gill. They remind us of what love really is and what it should be.
©Etta D. Richards