“Pleasure of love lasts but a moment. Pain of love lasts a lifetime.”
~Bette Davis
This is my submission to Debbie’s Forgiving Friday series, where she writes about and invite others to share their thoughts on Forgiveness, Self-Love and Personal Growth.
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I hate falling in love. I hate the feeling of constant butterflies in my stomach, I want to not be filled with so much uncertain of emotions; all the highs and lows of the initial attraction. But do love being in love, just wished you were given a manual at birth with the name of our soulmate inscribed on its cover and when we’re both ready he finds me or I find him.
Even if you’ve found your soulmate, think back to when you two first met. The emotional roller coaster, that lovesick feeling you got when the two of you were a part. Women nurturers making us more vulnerable to the sting of love. But once you’ve passed those initial stages of butterflies and heart palpitations, love is a wonderful thing. Whether you’re in love, looking for love or have found your soulmate. Don’t let him consume you…..
If he does not call go to sleep.
If he does not message put your phone away and have a fantastic day anyway.
If he acts distant when you are with him and refuses to tell you what is wrong, don’t wait for him, go home and do something you love.
If he tries to insinuate you do not need your friends now that you have him spend more time with your friends.
If he tries to teach you a lesson through the silent treatment ignore him completely.
If he plays with your feelings constantly walk away from him.
If he acts like your body is his entitlement when you are not ready, walk away from him.
If he says terrible unforgivable things and threatens to leave you after every argument, walk away from him.
If he forbids you from doing anything you love walk away from him.
If he claims ownership of your accomplishments walk away from him.
If he demeans you or disrespects your being a girl and refuses to stop when you tell him it hurts, walk away from him.
I cannot stress this enough, you live for yourself first he is a secondary character in the story of your life do not allow him to turn you into a secondary character in your own book
These are some wonderful reminders from Nikita Gill. They remind us of what love really is and what it should be.
~Happy Friday
©Etta D. Richards
Simply Etta 
This song came to me as I was watching a video about of all things infidelity! But it is true the Smoke Gets in Your Eyes and you become blind to faults and flaws that should send up alarms.
The Platters – Smoke Gets In Your Eyes
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LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this song. I have it on a play list and you’re so right smoke does get in your eyes when it comes to love.
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Etta D, this is an amazing and powerful post. It is so true – the first person we need to love and take care of is ourselves. Funny, I just did a video where I mention how the things I judge in someone else are really things I judge in me – that the whole world is a mirror. And I love that song. What a great addition … so much life in it.
I included your post from last week for today’s Forgiving Fridays b/c I hadn’t shared that yet — and I want people to read it! I’ll include this one in next week’s post. Hope that is ok for you, my Beloved Etta.
Have a great weekend. Love to you, and much peacefulness,
Debbie
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That is perfectly ok with me, I took note that we on different time zones publishing at different times of the day 😉 🙂
So true, I’ve often heard it said that the thing we find fault in others is the very quality we dislike in ourselves.
Have an awesome weekend Debbie and hope you enjoy our new dwelling. Wishing you home blessing and may there always be a candle in the window to guide your way home 🙂
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I like the Bette Davis quote. After leaving an abusive relationship I found that romantic love is not worth the effort. Yes I still have the same feelings as when I was younger but now I’m no longer stupid. It is better to keep things in the friend zone. For me it has become much easier to walk away from romance because I know how things will end so I refuse to make any type of investment.
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Nothing beats experience. The great thing is, now you know what you want and what’s acceptable. NO relationship should be abusive, kudos to you for walking away! xxx
Have a great weekend!
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This was a great share and brings back nostalgia about love. I love love. And I hate, love too. But then, can we do without love itself? Love is sweet and beautiful. Love is life. Thanks, Dear Etta, I really loved this post. Have a wonderful weekend. 🙂
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