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“I refuse to permit anything or anyone to steal my joy regardless of how dire the circumstance is. Happiness is now a way of living for me because I decided a decade ago that it was time to take charge and become the captain of my own thoughts and beliefs.”
~Edmond Mbiaka

This is my submission to Debbie’s Forgiving Friday  series, where she writes about and invite others to share their thoughts on  Forgiveness, Self-Love and Personal Growth.

joy
noun
1.
a feeling of great pleasure and happiness.


I love animals and at my age, it’s safe to say I enjoy their company more than I do people. Animals don’t judge, compare or condemn, they bring happiness and love you unconditionally. But on the flip side, I don’t derive my sense of pleasure or satisfaction from others. With years of practice, I’ve learned to master my own happiness because it took me some painful years to realise that by comparing myself, my relationships and achievements to others I was putting my happiness in their hands, often with disappointing results because I was letting other people limit my joy!

In the years since, I’ve learned that some part of us puts some value in what people think of us, how they perceive us. This is the limiting part, this is what limits our ability to find joy in our lives. I’ve learned that WE also allow people steal our joy when:

1. We choose to accept unhealthy criticism.

2. We accept the opinions of others on how we are living our lives.

3. When we compare ourselves to others.

4. When we try to live up the unrealistic expectation of others.

Recognise these roadblocks but don’t let them rent space in your head, have confidence in your own abilities and accomplishments. You don’t have to live up to anyone’s expectations but your own. When it comes to your happiness set the bar high, accept only the things that bring your true happiness and not temporary pleasure.

Adulting is hard work so please adult responsibly!

 

~Happy Friday

©Etta D. Richards

11 thoughts on “Phenomenal Friday-Don’t Let Anyone Limit Your Joy!

  1. Oh Etta I love this! What a beautiful and powerful contribution for Forgiving Fridays. I am honored to share it in next week’s post. ❤ Thank you for this, and for all of your contributions each week! You are building a sacred energy field of forgiveness, from my point of view.

    Funny, this morning I'm present to the hilarity of life — that we can laugh as we go through our struggles, our ups and our downs – because in truth, they are all of joy.

    I love you.
    Debbie

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    1. So true, you have to stay present in the hilarity of life, it’s the only way to stay sane. There’s a quote I wrote many years go and now use it as a signature in my email, “In the midst of despair, there’s humour. Laugh in the face of adversity!”

      The honour is all mine, thank you for allowing me to contribute to your blog 🙂

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  2. I Love my cat Sylvester! He brings me Joy!

    Though I was never able to have children of my own I find that God often sends me young women of all races and faiths who need encouragement. Those of us who have passed that half century mark have the benefit or maturity and experience. Young Ladies don’t always have that and need guidance from older women. I do my best to help. Sometimes young women just need a listening ear. They have pressures and stresses unique to this Digital Age.

    As an Elder of the Global Community I’m here to uplift young women. I let them know that they can confide in me about anything. No shame. No guilt. No judgement. Sometimes young women fault themselves and feel like they are stupid I let them no that they are not stupid you just did not know. You did not have the information and now you do. It takes time to get to the level of courage, strength and self confidence and everyone arrives at a different time.

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    1. Keep up the good work or encouraging and mentoring the young. Like I tell my daughters, I’ve been 22 and 18 but they’ve never been 48. I agree with you that the Digital Age impose a lot of pressure and stress on young people.

      I have a special place in my heart for young girls and women because my Mum had me when she was 17, pregnant at 16 back then an young unwed, semi-literate young mother was the literally the talk of the town so to speak. I have enough experiences for several life times 🙂

      But you are truly a GEM in a selfish world where everyone find it easy to turn a blind eye that offer support and encouragement.

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      1. Thanks. There’s is so much homelessness in New York city. Obviously I can’t help every person but I can make a difference in one young woman life. Tanya from Montreal is not homeless but her situation is iffy as New York city can be a dangerous place for young women. Not everyone has someone. I try to put myself in their place.

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