Meaningful Monday-How Toxic Are You?

 

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Release and detach from every person, every circumstance, every condition, and every situation that no longer serves a divine purpose in your life. All things have a season, and all seasons must come to an end. Choose a new season, filled with purposeful thoughts and activities.
~Iyanla Vanzant

We are all the same. We all have a degree of toxicity in us, I believe in chemistry between people, whether in a personal relationship, professional ones or intimate relations; you may be a great influence for certain people but toxic to someone else.  Just as you may not add value to the lives of some people, there are people who add value to your life and there are those who don’t.

We say toxic relationships are bad for us without giving a second thought of how toxic we can be to someone else. I’ve learned to recognize the warning signs of my own faults, there are people I get along fine with, then there are others that just makes my blood boil. But, am I going to go into a full-blown temper tantrum? NO! I re-evaluate myself by accepting the situation and removing myself from it. You have to be big enough to accept and understand your own faults.

Ask yourself, how Toxic Am I?

Do I give constructive criticism or simply criticise?
Am I being objective or simply objecting?
Do I offer emotional support or demand it?

If it’s a matter of not having the choice of leaving the company of the person or people you might be oil to their water. Exercise your mental strength Focus on all the relationships in your life that are going well, ignore the ones that aren’t. You may not be able to completely ignore that obnoxious colleague but don’t allow them to rent space in your head. Choose to have a healthy relationship, not one you feel you must control, accept the harsh reality that hurt people, hurt people.

Like I said, we all have some level of toxicity, no one is perfect.  But you don’t have to have a constant venomous attitude. Let your feeling of self-worth come from you, not from the power you feel by hurting someone else.

 

~Happy Monday

©Etta D. Richards

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