There is so much to say about boundaries and how foundational they are for our sense of self. In this post, I’ll focus mainly on the relationship between our self-worth and our ability to set healthy boundaries effectively.
Without firm boundaries, we can easily become “merged” or enmeshed with others, causing us to emotionally caretake, be overly responsible, or neglect our own needs. When boundaries are too rigid we isolate ourselves and push others away.
Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings. ~William Arthur Ward
This past Thursday America celebrated Thanksgivings, a day of celebrating with family and friends while expressing gratitude. With Christmasquickly approaching, this is a time of year where you can easily become overwhelmed with the commercialization of the season; anxiety holiday shopping all of which can make you lose sight of the all the things that are going well in your life.
“When things go seriously wrong there is a strong temptation to cast oneself for a tragic role, to feel injured & embittered. Absolutely repudiate a crown of martyrdom. Try to handle the difficulty in an objective way, as though it concerned somebody else. To be tragic is to accept defeat. Affirm victory. Know & insist that you can be victorious.”
That which you let go from your mind will pass away from you entirely. Train yourself to let kindness be a permanent state of your mind because you cannot afford to criticize, condemn or be angry at any time. We know that anger not only disturbs the mind but also destroys the cells of the body and no one can be angry without losing a great deal of life and energy. To find fault never pays; it simply brings enmity, discord and criticisms; besides, the faults we constantly see in others will develop in ourselves.