“Character is what you know you are, not what others think you have.” ~Unknown
Remember when you first learned to drive a car, ride a Bike or use a computer? Everything is complicated until it becomes easy. Doing any of those things took concentration, the willingness to learn and determination. Building character works the same way, it’s difficult until it becomes easy. The goal in character building is to exchange enough bad habits for good habits; but to do this you must know what’s good, what’s not and when to do good.
I don’t mean only doing good for others. I mean doing good for yourself. Not beating yourself over the head for making a mistake, stopping the abusive self-talk or those little talks of defeat. Just as in the corporate world where teamwork is key you have to build your own T.E.A.M that works for you.
Teach yourself how to appreciate YOU!
Enforce good ideas. We all wake up on the wrong side of the bed. So instead of punching your self-esteem in the gut. Puch your pillow instead, scream out the window if you have to. The neighbours may think you’ve gone crazy but it will make you feel better to shout it out
Advocate for yourself. Not just at work but in everyday life. Embrace your uniqueness without prejudice or explanation to others.
Model your life around things that make you happy. Happiness is not something that we can always indulge because pain is inevitable but necessary, it helps us grow. I left my happy place a few times in the past week, not to the point breaking down crying but I didn’t feel good about myself. I parked on the sofa for about two days contemplating my next direction in life.
Our character is revealed through the way we handle life’s frustrations, disappointments, and our actions when we think no one is taking notes.
©Etta D. Richards