Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored. ~Earl Nightingale
I’ve chased the perfect relationship both with family and the opposite sex, I’ve chased goals, achievements all for the sake of bringing me happiness. Unfortunately, I discovered that happiness is not a thing that can be found and put in our pockets, it’s not the fake smile you toss on whenever you’re in public and it definitely does not come through sexual favours as some people may think.
You can accept it or turn a blind eye and reject it but LIFE is imperfect and so are YOU! So stop running after that perfect happy life, instead, embrace it! It’s hard for a perfectionist to embrace imperfect, I’m not perfect yet I’ve always expected my world to be. if it wasn’t I wanted to make it perfect.
How I stopped chasing happiness and started enjoying life
So I had to stop obsessing over my goals because I learned the hard way that even after I achieved that goal it made me even more anxious to accomplish another.
I had to accept that achievement doesn’t bring lasting happiness. I have a 50-page binder with certificates and a few degrees. I kid you not! It’s was an eye-opener that knowledge isn’t power, how you used that knowledge makes you powerful.
I had to give up the guilt.
There will always be something to pursue, new goals popping into your head, new relationships. Don’t tag happiness to those goals, achievements, relationships. Happiness comes when you learn to enjoy your life the way it is when you enjoy what you’re doing whether it’s learning something new or achieving another goal and not having the expectations of them bringing you happiness.
This is my submission to Debbie’s Forgiving Friday series, where she writes about and invite others to share their thoughts on Forgiveness, Self-Love and Personal Growth.
©Etta D. Richards