Phenomenal Friday-Why I Stopped Chasing Happiness & Started Living


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Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.  ~Earl Nightingale

I’ve chased the perfect relationship both with family and the opposite sex, I’ve chased goals, achievements all for the sake of bringing me happiness. Unfortunately, I discovered that happiness is not a thing that can be found and put in our pockets, it’s not the fake smile you toss on whenever you’re in public and it definitely does not come through sexual favours as some people may think.

You can accept it or turn a blind eye and reject it but LIFE is imperfect and so are YOU! So stop running after that perfect happy life, instead, embrace it! It’s hard for a perfectionist to embrace imperfect, I’m not perfect yet I’ve always expected my world to be. if it wasn’t I wanted to make it perfect.

How I stopped chasing happiness and started enjoying life

So I had to stop obsessing over my goals because I learned the hard way that even after I achieved that goal it made me even more anxious to accomplish another.

I had to accept that achievement doesn’t bring lasting happiness. I have a 50-page binder with certificates and a few degrees. I kid you not! It’s was an eye-opener that knowledge isn’t power, how you used that knowledge makes you powerful.

I had to give up the guilt.

There will always be something to pursue, new goals popping into your head, new relationships. Don’t tag happiness to those goals, achievements, relationships. Happiness comes when you learn to enjoy your life the way it is when you enjoy what you’re doing whether it’s learning something new or achieving another goal and not having the expectations of them bringing you happiness.

This is my submission to Debbie’s Forgiving Friday  series, where she writes about and invite others to share their thoughts on  Forgiveness, Self-Love and Personal Growth.

~Happy Friday

©Etta D. Richards


12 thoughts on “Phenomenal Friday-Why I Stopped Chasing Happiness & Started Living

  1. Hi Etta, this is such a wonderful contribution for Forgiving Fridays! Thank you so much. What you write is profound – to stop chasing and to start living. I LOVE the way you are being with this. I also invite you (if it fits for you!) to forgive yourself if you notice that judgments are still present. I was in a class this weekend, where we talked of the power of letting go.

    I love you Etta. I’m going to be in a spiritual retreat for the next 2 weeks so will be off my blog. Please keep your contributions coming for Forgiving Fridays, and I’ll share all of them upon my return.

    Sending you blessings of joy, of life, of happiness, and of surrender to the loving Etta 🙂

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    1. First I envy you and your retreats. There’s nothing like that in my area.
      Thank you for your guidance and insight. I have often questioned by Self-Forgiveness is so difficult! Sometimes impossible for many.
      xxxx Love and Light to you Debbie.


  2. So very true , you have shared a gem of life lesson. I live how you expressed ”… put happiness in a pocket.. ‘ we cant , life evolves and happiness comes a goes. But true happiness if just going with the flow and being content.. i feel ..and understanding there will down days.. great share

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    1. I find that people make themselves more unhappy in trying to find happiness, they also believe it’s something they can hold onto forever. Like you said it comes and it goes! So you have to ride that wave and accept the ups and downs.

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    1. You know I was trying to post the video bout
      1. it didn’t show up as a player it was just the link.
      2. I forgot you have to select “publish” twice. So the post didn’t publish this morning.


      1. It does save as draft, I never realise it’s not posted until later because I’m used to just clicking post once after setting publishing dates and times.
        I want to upgrade my subscription here but every time I’m at the check-out something else changes and I have doubts. A friend of mine moved to Wix and she loves using there platform.


      2. I had to upgrade my Photography Blog Roaming Urban Gypsy because I was running out of space and memory for the photos. For me it was worth the cost. Not too sure about migrating across platforms. Something might get lost or the data corrupted.

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