When we forgive all and still suffer we may not believe that forgiveness produces emancipation, but the fact is that suffering is impossible when forgiveness is absolute. When we forgive completely we shall also eliminate completely every trouble or ill that may exist in our world. When you have trouble forgive those who have caused the trouble; forgive yourself for permitting yourself to be troubled, and your troubles will pass away. When you have made a mistake do not condemn yourself or feel upset; simply forgive yourself, and resolve that you will never make the mistake again. As you make that resolution, desire more wisdom, and have the faith that you will secure the wisdom you require. “According to your faith so shall it be.” There are many who will think that the practice of forgiving everybody for everything will produce mental indifference and thus weaken character, but it is the very opposite that will take place. To forgive is to eliminate the useless, everything that is not good; and to free the mind from obstacles and adverse conditions is to enable that mind to be its best, to express itself fully and completely. This will not only strengthen the character and enlarge the mind but will cause the greatness of the soul to come forth. There is many a character that appears to be strong on account of its open hostility to wrongs, but such a character is not always strong. Too often it is composed of a few borrowed ideas about morality backed up by mere animal force.” ~Christian D Larson
This is my contribution to Debbie’s Forgiving Friday series, where she writes about and invite others to share their thoughts on Forgiveness, Self-Love and Personal Growth. Debbie, thank you and I am so grateful the opportunity to contribute to your blog.
Sometimes we leave out past behind and mentally tell ourselves that all is forgiven, when deep down inside it really isn’t, so we leave ourselves open to be scathe over and over by that unforgiven thing. Years ago I worked for a family owned and operated company, it was not a job I saw myself retiring from but it gave me the opportunity to stay active on the career front. Within a year I was promoted to manager, no big excitement there as it only meant added responsibilities but not much in way of compensation. Long story short I become disillusioned with the company’s approach to the equality of their employees. There was no regards or remorse for the safety of the people working for them and after an incident where I was literally forced into firing an employee, I tendered my resignation on the stance that I would not only remain until they found my replacement but also train my that person.
Well needless to say, that did not go down well as in the following weeks leading up to my being fired, yes! Fired! I was harassed, bullied and my privacy compromised by means of a personal email being printed off and circulated around the office.
After leaving the company I filed a complaint against them due to the fact that I was not given the severance pay owed to me, my resignation was never recorded as they insisted that I was fired but could give no cause as to why I was fired. The owners were always a no-show at any of the meetings with local authorities. Finally, I walked away from the situation despite the fact that the board of labour said I had a viable case. It took a lot to walk away from something like that, however, during that period I was also going through a lot of personal issues as well. The situation was this, continue to fight them for God knows how long or move on with my life. Suffice to say, the latter was the most promising option.
When something from our past is awakened it reminds us of the little malice that’s still festering in our hearts, when we think we’ve forgiven all, forgotten all. Life gives us a reminder that we need to do more. My reminder came in the form of an article about that company, reading it made me realise there was never a resolve, no forgiveness in that situation. Yes, I had moved on but that baggage moved along with me. So what do you do after so many years and you realise you’ve missed something on your list? You first forgive yourself for allowing that thing to bring you such misery. Then forgive those who have caused you that misery. Finally, you move on! Continue to live the life you deserve, uninterrupted by scenes of the past. Which is what I had to do. It took a few deep breathes but I did it. Do I feel better? Yes!
I’m reevaluating everything while reminding myself that forgiveness starts and ends with me which means constantly searching within myself to find what’s causing me hurt and what’s disrupting my harmony!
©Etta D. Richards