“Stop questioning everything. Stop second-guessing yourself. Be firm in your intentions. Be firm in your decisions. If it doesn’t work out, return to your intention. Do not introduce judgment. Do not engage in negative self-dialogue. Consistently do your best, with what you know, with what you have, with who you are. Even if you understand things differently tomorrow, it does not matter. You can only ever do your best in the moment. Celebrate yourself for doing your best. We are all growing and learning. We are all fallible. We all make mistakes. Your mistakes do not define you. You are not your mistakes. I repeat: You are not your mistakes. Let go. Stay with the present moment.”
“A wise man will make more opportunities than he finds.”
Most of you will be familiar with the proverb that “Opportunity Knocks Once.” This is just one of many paradigms we have been programmed into believing and it’s due to this belief that many people give up when they don’t succeed at something the first time. Throughout your life opportunity will present itself many times but the same opportunity will never present itself twice. Confusing? It’s not really that confusing if you look at it this way. You may have passed up an opportunity of working at a certain company. That single opportunity is gone, it won’t come again. But a similar opportunity could come later on, like the opportunity to start your own business or the opportunity to work for another company that feeds your desire for personal growth. Opportunities will continuously knock at your door, however, the same one never knocks twice. Life is like a house, it has many doorways with each leading to another room.
If you are the person who is actively seeking your goals, you will recognise the opportunities as they come your way. In my previous employment back home there were many opportunities for me to take a post in America. Due to family commitments and my own lack of self-confidence I turned the opportunity down. Years later, opportunity knocked again. This time it was taking me further away from family and friends and my self-confidence would again be challenged. There was much apprehension, it took me weeks to make up my mind to take such a huge leap. But I did because this time despite the fears my priorities had changed. With this change came the support I needed to embrace this new opportunity and the self-forgiveness for letting so many opportunities pass me by. I learned a long time ago that there are three types of people in this world-The those who make things happen. Those who stand by and watch things happen. Then there are those who wonder what happened. It’s up to you to choose the person you want to be.
This was my contribution to Debbie’s Forgiving Friday series,where she writes about and invite others to share their thoughts on Forgiveness, Self-Love and Personal Growth. Debbie, thank you and I am so grateful for the opportunity to contribute to your blog.