“people are intimidated by people they cannot imitate.”
We may sometimes share the same or similar experiences in life but those experiences are as individual as the person facing them, so is their reaction to them. It’s rational and healthy to be mindful of the energy we put into whatever life throws at us. I’m challenged on a daily basis, sometimes I can ignore a situation, shutting it off completely, other times I step out of character and challenge the situation head-on then regret later putting so much energy into something so meaningless. Our experiences can bring out the worst in us, just as it can bring out the best in us but it’s entirely up to you and me to know when to cut off or distance ourselves from situations that bring us down.
Four things I’m reminded of daily when facing any challenge
“Do the things that interest you and do them with all your heart. Don’t be concerned about whether people are watching you or criticizing you. The chances are that they aren’t paying any attention to you. It’s your attention to yourself that is so stultifying. But you have to disregard yourself as completely as possible. If you fail the first time then you’ll just have to try harder the second time. After all, there’s no real reason why you should fail. Just stop thinking about yourself.”
“Stop chasing society’s definition of success and chase your own definition of success. Success is an emotion that is experienced when you are completely fulfilled and content with where you are in life; it has nothing to do with a specific job, a specific amount of money in your bank account, or the quality of material possessions you acquire. You can be the richest man in the world, but still, feel unsuccessful, and you can be the poorest man in the world, but still, feel extremely successful.”
“Do not let other people invade your personality. Remember that every human being is a unique phenomenon, and worth developing. You will meet many who have no resources of their own, and who will try to fasten themselves upon you. You will find others eager to tell you what to do and think and be. But it is better to go apart and learn to be yourself.”
“There are, literally, thousands of people all around the world who need nothing more than to meet someone just like you. To spend your time pretending to be someone else is just as senseless and fear-driven as spending your time speaking to people who don’t understand you. Find your tribe. Let yourself be seen. You are already someone’s hero.”
This is my contribution to Debbie’s Forgiving Friday series, where she writes about and invite others to share their reflections on Forgiveness, Self-Love and Personal Growth. Thank you, Debbie Roth, I am eternally grateful to you for allowing me to contribute to your blog.
~ Happy Friday
©Etta D. Richards