When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. ~Maya Angelou
I was never so mindful of this quote a few days ago. It’s not the first time this person had shown me who they are, but I’m the person who looks for the good in everyone because we are all wrestling with our own inner wolves, just that some of us are better at suppressing the bad wolf than others. This past week I witnessed what can only describe as borderline bullying and even though I was not on the receiving end, it made me so uneasy, that my initial instinct was to react even if the recipient chose to completely ignore the incident I wanted to speak up in their defence. It took me some time to regain my composure but I decided to comfort the victim instead of confronting the bully. Who I reminded that no one can make you feel inferior without your permission.
How often do you let other people’s actions change your mood? Have you ever given in to an insensitive colleague, brusque boss or hostile driver? What happens to you is not a reflection of your own character but the character of the other individual. What matters most is how quickly you can refocus on your own self. Moving away from a bad experience and understanding that there will always be that person or persons who for some reason or another gain happiness by trying to make you feel inferior makes you the bigger person.
Walk away from anyone who doesn’t bring anything to your life. Family, Friends, Colleagues, trust your instincts but more importantly trust them, you may have to interact, do so without opening yourself up to victimization. Trust the red flags because there always are, when they show you who they are, believe them the first time.
This is my contribution to Debbie’s Forgiving Friday series, where she writes about and invite others to share their reflections on Forgiveness, Self-Love and Personal Growth. Thank you, Debbie Roth, I am eternally grateful to you for allowing me to contribute to your blog.
©Etta D. Richards