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Although the world is full of suffering, it’s full also of the overcoming it.
~Helen Keller


I’ve spent years suffering from depression, low self-esteem or rather no self-esteem and social anxiety. I’ve been medicated, inundated with self-help books, seminars, videos and I’ve come to the conclusion that suffering comes because we have been taught that pain will always be with us. It’s a permanent thing that we have to carry with us throughout our lives like a second skin.


Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. ~Viktor Frankl

Something I did get from those self-help/coaching videos is that people suffer according to their response to what’s bringing that pain. My pain and suffering revealed my strength, it showed me I am stronger than that which was sent to break me down.

Everyone experiences pain through life’s atrocities and our on self-imposed suffering. The impact they have on our mental health depends on how we internalise them because through the World is full of suffering,  it also has its share of overcoming if we decide to protect our inner worth from the outer atrocities. My life is not perfect but it is better than it was because of my response to the self-doubt, depression and social anxiety. When I changed the way I process them, they became less debilitating and more liberating.
We all have the choice of living in fear or connecting to the wisdom of our unique self.


This is my contribution to Debbie’s Forgiving Friday series, where she writes about and invite others to share their reflections on Forgiveness, Self-Love and Personal Growth. Thank you, Debbie Roth,  I am eternally grateful to you for allowing me to contribute to your blog.


I’d also thank Deborah at Roamy Gypsy for insights. I’ve grown so much respect for her not only as a person but also as an artist and for her service to her country. Her life is a cornucopia of experiences, from serving her country to serving her brother as a loving sister and guardian angel. You are always in my prayers, though we’ve we had travelled different paths in life, I can identify with,  as 1. black woman in America from living there for 5yrs. 2. mental health, my own and that of family members. 3. love of family, my grandparents were to me as your mom and dad were to you I suppose.

Happy Friday

©Etta D. Richards