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You will always have happiness in life when you begin to focus and take responsibility for who you are and how you want to live your life. ~Yvette N Treco


Everyone believes that what they believe is the true and I’ve come to accept the fact everyone shares different beliefs about life, God and human kindness. What I’m careful about is though, to not let the toxic beliefs of others spill over into my own life because when you seek information for yourself and stick to the idea of creating a more harmonious life for yourself, one that’s free of confusion or mental clutter. Why let someone else distort that?

When speaking to people about my concept of ignoring anything and anyone that doesn’t bring some value to my life, some really strange questions follow. The three most common questions and answers…Do I believe in Gay Marriages? Yes! Do I believe in God? Yes though my concept of God is completely different than most. Do I believe in Fairies, Unicorns, The Loch Ness Monster? Most certainly do, again not in the concept as others do. Most often people are stopped in their tracks at my first and last responses, it’s ok to believe in God just as long as you don’t try to explain the deeper level of your belief. But gay marriages and mythical creatures are a bit much to absorb in the moment so there’s always a strange stare after, sometimes even a few steps back to distance themselves from the crazy lady.

Call me crazy, call me insane, imperfect! My beliefs come from my experiences, no I’ve never seen fairies, a Unicorn or the Loch Ness Monster but I’ve experienced love, pain, prejudices, racism, misogyny, loss, betrayal. You name it. At some point in my life, I’ve experienced. Maybe not at the point that some of you have but our experiences should never be downplayed. Your level of pain may have differed from mine, but it had some effect on life. So going through life as I have, I do believe in a power higher than myself and don’t want to inflict pain or prejudice on anyone else so yes I do believe in gay marriages. Everyone is entitled to do what makes them happy and to live a life that brings them joy.

If you’re stuck about wanting to know what beliefs to accept to make your life better. Well, you can start with the belief that you are enough. Then look at what makes you happy, forget about what society dictates and look at what brings meaning and joy to your life and the lives of those around you.


This is my contribution to Debbie’s Forgiving Friday series, where she writes about and invite others to share their reflections on Forgiveness, Self-Love and Personal Growth. Thank you, Debbie Roth,  I am eternally grateful to you for allowing me to contribute to your blog.


~Happy Friday

©Ettta D Richards