“People who love themselves, don’t hurt other people. The more we hate ourselves, the more we want others to suffer.”
Bullying has gone mainstream, we read stories about children being bullied in school and on the playground. The media has become saturated with stories about the victims and casualty of bullying. It has become a common highlighted segment in the media.
The purpose for this constant saturation is to not only make us more aware of the harmfulness of bullying but also to help us become more sensitive to how we treat others. We see this bullying culture extending beyond the playground and into the workplace but this is rarely highlighted. Bullying in the workplace can manifest itself through intentional sarcasm, witty racist remarks, gossip and malicious officer cooler chit chat.
It often comes to a point where it’s you against them. I’ve had my share of bullying on the job but have learned to take it in stride and walk away from situations. We were raised on “sticks and stones may hurt my bones, but words can never harm me,” hower sometimes words to harm us. They can harm us physically, mentally and sometimes professionally as words can often ruin reputation because it breathes doubts and affects the way others see the victim.
In the end, the way people treats others is more of a reflection about that individual than about the victim. Bullies are often so insecure that the only pleasure they get out of life is by hurting those around them. They thrive on the pain they inflict on others. Sometimes we may feel like biting back, going neck to neck in hurting those that hurt us. Before you do, you have to ask yourself, will this make me feel better? Will you feel like the bigger person and will your mind be at peace?
The best way to survive to a bully is by not allowing them to pull you into their storm.
This is my submission to Debbie’s Forgiving Friday series, where she writes about and invite others to share their thoughts on Forgiveness, Self-Love and Personal Growth.
©Etta D. Richards