Creating a safe haven for yourself doesn’t only mean having a roof over your head. It means finding people that enrich your life so immensely you’ll wonder how you ever made it through this life without them. ~ Etta D Richard
I blogged about my visit back home this past summer, about reconnecting and closure. The hardest for me was the closures as there were a few people I was saying goodbye to one last time. It wasn’t physical death, but death to relationships. at the time it was disappointing, looking back now there is a huge feeling of relief, I don’t have to grin and bear it. Life gives us what we need when we need it, some people come into our lives as a blessing, some as a lesson. Enlightenment is one thing life gives us when have transcended to the lesson.
Cutting people off doesn’t mean you hate them or dislike, it just means that you have outgrown them, it doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you a person who on a mission. You are only as smart as the smartest person in your circle and if you’re the smartest person in your circle. You need to find yourself a new circle. There were people I kept in good company with, then I came to the realisation that they brought nothing to my life.
The realisation was always there, the distance between us changed nothing, our conversations always started with bad news or news about other people. If you the only thing you have in common with someone is the latest hot gossip then that someone serves no purpose in your life, they may be good company, but they’re empty company. It was something that I had to think long and hard about, do I want to continue keeping empty company or do I want company who enriched my life, it’s just another process in staying true to myself. I’m sure the people I walked away from will find birds they can fly with but I was not meant to be a part of that flock because I have come into my own.
This is my submission to Debbie’s Forgiving Friday series, where she writes about and invite others to share their thoughts on Forgiveness, Self-Love and Personal Growth.
©Etta D. Richards