“If you walked away from a toxic, negative, abusive, one-sided, dead-end low vibrational relationship or friendship— you won.”
It’s easy to forget that the way people treat you, what people say or do, say more about them than it says about you. You can walk away from the drama but sometimes drama runs into you head-on. One of the best aspects of working from home for me is being away from all the drama of the office and not having to wade through all the different personalities. However, despite working from home though, there is still that interaction between colleagues and yes, sometimes hairs do get crossed, this is when the drama find you! I faced a situation this week that made me step out of character. Looking back at it now, I’m not proud of myself for wasting my energy on such an insignificant thing of someone trying to pass the blame because I knew better. I saw it coming but instead of protecting myself by walking away, I went into it head-on, guns blazing.
It’s human nature to lash out when facing a toxic situation you have to remind yourself of that opening clause, ‘how people treat you, what people say or do says more about them than it says about you.’ This may mean very little coming from me, the me who stepped out of character but don’t take things people say or do too personal. We are all going through some emotional crisis, some people are better than handling it than others, some handle their frustration through defiance, thoughtlessness or just being rude. Whichever way they choose, it’s their best way of dealing with whatever situation they’re facing at that time. It may be difficult to interpret their behaviour but you can control how you respond to their behaviour.
I had to also acknowledge my part in the situation, which isn’t always easy for many people as they will never accept their responsibility of adding fuel to a fire. In hindsight, I reflected on my own wisdom by reaffirming to myself that I’m good enough at what I do and don’t need the validation of others, I’m smart enough to recognize that some fights are better left alone and I’m strong enough to not allow the opinions of others define who I am as a person. Wisdom also affirms that my self-esteem, my self-confidence, my self-worth are my responsibility, not those around me and that my emotions should not be dominated by others.
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©Etta D. Richards