The Quality of Relationships

Quality relationships make us happy and it is within our power to build them and take care of them. This means that our happiness depends on ourselves as individuals and the extent to which we manage to build quality relationships. When we come to realize that building beautiful relationships will be to our benefit, the benefit of all of us, we will understand that working for this is quite a responsibility.

― Gabriela Elena MECH


4 Things You Have No Control of In Life

There are many things in life we have absolutely no control over, though we may think we have and wish we have, we really don’t. You may think you are in control because you are leaving behind something old for something new, a happy more exciting life. But life has a way of tossing us a curveball, snapping us back to the reality that we are not in control. 

The only thing you have control over is yourself. Only you have control over your attitude, actions and decisions. Trying to decide on how to fist someone else’s problems or exhausting yourself trying to control the narrative is tiresome and a waste of energy. You have to learn to let go of these four things in life, simply because they are completely beyond your control.

1. Relationship: Marriage or romantic we have absolutely no control over our partners. When a relationship breaks, it’s always the what, why, how. But simply put, it takes two people to make any relationship work. When one of those people decide to take their life in a new direction. All that’s left is for the other person to forgive, forget and move on.  It’s painful to trash a relationship sometimes but you can’t make someone want you. For your own peace of mind, you have to let go and create a future alone. This is the advice I’ve always given to anyone who cried on my shoulder, however, your own pill is more difficult to swallow. 

2. Change: Unfortunately, everything in life changes. Even the good things turn bad, but bad things can also change to good. The beautiful thing about change is, nothing ever stays the same, you just have to learn to go with the flow of the changes.

3. The Past: Yesterday is gone, you cannot change what has already happened, what you can do is not let that past destroy your future. It will be difficult to leave the pain of the past in the past, but don’t let yesterday’s hurt or mistakes ruin your future. The healing process will be a hard and difficult one but you must heal yourself in order to move forward with a future you deserve. Let of those past mistakes, embarrassing memories, the heartbreak, the pain. It’s never easy but it will be worth it. Hold on to those beautiful memories of the past and allow them to fuel your passion to move forward. 

4. The Future: Not sure this should be on the list here because our actions have consequences, whatever decisions you make right now. Will determine your future. That Jelly Donut will determine how hard you have to work out in the future. While on the other hand, you can the best-laid plans for landing that perfect job, creating a perfect relationship and it can all fall to pieces. So, hard as we may, the future isn’t really something you can control. I have this out the hard way.

Pinned Message: We may think we’re in control of every aspect of our existence but we’re all just prisons of life.


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Waiting for the Next Abracadabra Moment

No one can predict what’s going to happen the next day or in the next minute. It’s all unknown, and that’s what makes living the next moment, the next day, and the next year worth it—waiting for the next abracadabra moment.
― Uday Mukerji

Radical Acceptance

Clearly recognizing what is happening inside us, and regarding what we see with an open, kind and loving heart, is what I call Radical Acceptance. If we are holding back from any part of our experience, if our heart shuts out any part of who we are and what we feel, we are fueling the fears and feelings of separation that sustain the trance of unworthiness. Radical Acceptance directly dismantles the very foundations of this trance.
― Tara Brach

Beliefs to Let Go of as You Get Older

Most of your struggles with managing your time are due to self-limiting beliefs. Change your Mindset and you will be able to do a lot more in a lot less time.
― Vivek Naik

We are what we tell ourselves all day long. Your story begins with you and your life is simply a collection of what you believe, what you perceive the world to be and your actions towards those perceptions and beliefs. If you wish to build a story, build yourself a wonderful story by letting of those limiting beliefs you’ve carried around with you all your life.

The belief in procrastination – the sun may come out tomorrow but one day we all run out of tomorrow. Life life is fragile and meant to be lived today, procrastination steals that away from us. It’s the stealer of dreams and goals, it’s the thief of happiness.  Accepting and appreciating each moment leaves us no regret at the end of life’s journey. 

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