Phenomenal Friday: Identifying Moments That Define You

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The moments that define lives aren’t always obvious. They don’t always scream LEDGE, and nine times out of ten there’s no rope to duck under, no line to cross, no blood pact, no official letter on fancy paper. They aren’t always protracted, heavy with meaning.
~Victoria Schwab

Earlier this year I had a job interview, it was one I had tirelessly for.  Needless to say, I didn’t get the job. During that interview I was asked the question, “what would you say is your greatest accomplishment.” I asked the gentlemen to repeat the question, however, when he repeated the question it was rephrased. Instead, he asked me, “Name a defining moment in your life.”  I thought long and hard about this question, it was not on any of my flashcards because it wasn’t a question that’s been included in interviews I’d had in the past and certainly not one I had prepared for.

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Phenomenal Friday: Living In Gratitude

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Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.”
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Phenomenal Friday-Imposter Syndrome And Confidently Selling Yourself

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When you know you’re ENOUGH! When you stop focusing on all things that you’re not.
When you stop fussing over perceived flaws. When you remove all imposed and unbelievable expectations on yourself. When you start celebrating yourself more.
When you focus on all that you are. When you start believing that your perceived flaws are just that – perception”
~Malebo Sephodi

When work becomes routine it is easy to become complacent. When you have been removed from your element it is even more easy to become bored to death of that routine. This is because my brain craves constant stimulation through constructive conversations, work or study. Right now I am at an impasse and my brain is screaming desperately for me to move on and longing for new challenges as it has become lethargic in its present daily routine, it also doesn’t that I don’t like an exact fit to the environment I am in right now. What’s stopping me from giving in to the urge of moving on? The thought of having to sell “me” to another panel.

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Phenomenal Friday: Life Is A Roller Coaster Of Happiness And Grief



When you expect nothing from the world – not the light of the sun, the wet of water, nor the air to breathe – everything is a wonder and every moment a gift.”
~Michael J. Sullivan

The past few months have been one roller coaster ride after another, with each hurdle going higher and higher and the road seems endless.

Ride one began a few months ago we got a notice from the landlord that he was selling the property we’ve called home for the past gives yeses. At the time I went through the motions of trying to figure where to do next. Five years ago we found ourself in the same position, stick in Belgium trying to find a place in Scotland. It wasn’t easy then and though we’re here and have a bit more knowledge of the place, home hunting is still no easier than it was five years ago. In fact it even more difficult. We have looked at several places but now were suitable to our needs, I think, if you’re going to spend God, knows how long In a place you should at least have the minimum of comfort while you are there. The property we’re in now has grown on us but we’ve outgrown the space, so looking on the bright side. The Landlord’s decision to sell could probably be the Universe’s way of saying it is time to move on.

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Phenomenal Friday: Coming Into Your Own

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Creating a safe haven for yourself doesn’t only mean having a roof over your head. It means finding people that enrich your life so immensely you’ll wonder how you ever made it through this life without them. ~ Etta D Richard


I blogged about my visit back home this past summer, about reconnecting and closure. The hardest for me was the closures as there were a few people I was saying goodbye to one last time. It wasn’t physical death, but death to relationships. at the time it was disappointing, looking back now there is a huge feeling of relief, I don’t have to grin and bear it. Life gives us what we need when we need it, some people come into our lives as a blessing, some as a lesson. Enlightenment is one thing life gives us when have transcended to the lesson.

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Phenomenal Friday: It’s Ok To Have High Expectations


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Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson


I’m an optimist by nature and a pessimist by choice. In having so high an expectation in everything, life, relationships, friendships, work, I’m often met with disappointment. Like a trusted friend betraying that trust or going after that job I thought would be ideal only for it to end up being low on my scale. My list of disappointments can rival a monthly grocery list, yet I remain optimistic because I do have friends that are trustworthy, the job I can make it work until I become self-employed. Currently, I’m property hunting and confident that I will find a suitable one that fits my needs. At this point, there’s no room for the pessimist in my life. I don’t have the energy for it.

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Phenomenal Friday- Staying True To Yourself And To Others


“What I’ve learned over the years is that in order to nurture your inner stability and maintain your personal identity, you have to first figure out who you are as a person and harness an unwavering connection with that person.”  ~Etta D Richards

Change is the only constant thing in life. Some of us change for the better, some of us change for the worse but whatever the case reinventing yourself is constant and necessary because life is like a pendulum, always in motion and sometimes this motion can leave us unbalanced. I am at the end of a two week holiday to The Bahamas. The trip was long overdue, it was my first trip back home since leaving for Scotland five years ago. When I left five years ago I needed a change in my life, in fact, we all needed a change. The kids needed to broaden their horizon and I just needed spread my wings. My inner stability had become pretty unravelled by the daily routine of a perpetual cycle of going nowhere fast. The trip home was not only necessary but it brought back the reality of why I left in the first place. It was great seeing family, old friends as well as reconnecting to the place, burning bridges that no longer served a purpose while creating new ones that would be beneficial in the future.

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Phenomenal Friday-Stay Inspired

Being our own worse critic, inspiration is often more valued when it comes from someone else, we seldom relish in self-appreciation. Stay inspiration always!

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Courage is the most important of all the virtues because, without courage, you can’t practice any other virtue consistently.

~Maya Angelou


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Time is more valuable than money. You can get more money, but you cannot get more time.

~Jim Rohn


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The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.

~Bob Marley


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Without leaps of imagination or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.

~Gloria Steinem


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The most splendid achievement of all is the constant striving to surpass yourself and to be worthy of your own approval.

~Denis Waitley


~Happy Friday

This is my submission to Debbie’s Forgiving Friday series, where she writes about and invite others to share their thoughts on  Forgiveness, Self-Love and Personal Growth.

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©Etta  D. Richards



Phenomenal Friday-Aim High, Dream Often



“If you don’t have a dream how are we going to make a dream come true?”

I’ve always dreamt of being a writer. I also dreamt of being a pilot but that writer inside of me kept poking me in the side. Besides flying, lessons were way more expensive. My favourite subject in school was always in English because we had to write Essays or short stories which fueled my imagination. One of the reasons I started this blog was to encourage me to write more in hopes that it would foster the completion of my books. While I am disciplined in keeping up with my blog, I have not been so disciplined in finishing my book. The words are there, the end is in sight, now if I can just put those words on paper. That would be a huge accomplishment for me.

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Phenomenal Friday- Spend Every Waking Moment On The Things That Matter

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“And now she knows, beautiful things take time.” ~ Anonymous

This time of year it’s almost impossible for me to not be greeted with photos of proud parents, including myself, showing off pictures of their graduates. As well as some proud parents who are also celebrating the end of their own journey into continuing Education. It makes me reminiscent of my own High School and College Graduations. If I want to be honest, back then in high school I had no idea what I wanted to do. I don’t remember much of my high school graduation, except for looking down on my audience and my classmates and thinking, this is it. This the last time we will all gather as classmates. In college my path, yet blurred, my visions of the future, my future begin to take shape my second year. After it was all done, there was so much I wanted to do, places I wanted to see, some of which I have done, many places I have seen. But there is still much to do and see.

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