4 Superpowers We Ignore

Your purpose is determined in large part by your unique superpowers: your gifts, talents, and abilities. Find them, and run with them. It will bless you and make you a blessing to others.
― Sebastien Richard

What is a Super Hero? I bet if you asked anyone that question they would someone with super human strength, they may even list a few of the following: 

Someone with X-ray vision

Someone who is faster than a speeding bullet

Someone who could Fly or breathe underwater

Well, Batman only has a cape, he really doesn’t have a superpower other than quick wit and nifty gadgets. But he’s considered a Superhero. We all possess Superpowers, in fact, we use some of them every day, they simply go overlooked. You don’t need to be super strong or have exceptional abilities to be a superhero because you already are. We use our superpowers every day. Our abilities are what give us these superpowers.

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How You See Yourself is The Only Important Thing

 

Nobody has ever killed themselves over a broken arm. But every day, thousands of people kill themselves because of a broken heart. Why? Because emotional pain hurts much worse than physical pain.
― Oliver Markus Malloy

We can sometimes be our worst enemy. Lately, I have had more anxious days than days of serenity. My mind overflows with ideas, words of poetry and memories I would like to forget. But I have to remind myself that I’m only human. Time is a process that renews all things and time takes its time because putting the pieces back together when life kicks you down takes more effort than we think. It’s finding the effort and strength which can often prolong the healing process. A wish for us when something overwhelms us is that we can turn the clock back to a time when life was not so filled with anxiety and doubt, where peace of mind was a book or feel-good movie away. Where the best place to be was sharing a joke with your significant other.

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4 Points to Consider When Looking to Change Your Life Story

No man has ever seen a turtle climbing the wall. In order to do the things which are impossible for you, you need to change yourself, and better still, transform yourself into something new!
― Mehmet Murat ildan

Often in life, even the best-laid plans at times need to be adjusted to accommodate the twists, turns, and bumps along the way.  There have been so many struggles in my life, too many to count and most I’d like to forget. I would like to say our struggles have made us stronger. But do they?  How does pain strengthen the soul? How do struggles strengthen the spirit? 

Each morning you get out of bed can be a struggle to find something positive to look forward to, even the happiest person you know, at the back of their mind sits some doubt, some fear of just being.  Some people are content with making the best of it, and some people look for an alternate life. They look on the other side of the fence and notice the view seems better,  we all long for greener pastures rather than working on the one that has comforted us for so many years.

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Turning Adversity Into An Advantage

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Life is filled with painful moments, personal trauma and tragedy – like illness, the death of a loved one, loss of a job, or an unexpected breakup of a relationship. These can all leave their scars. They at times can break the spirit, mark the soul and leave the heart in a million pieces.  What doesn’t kills us makes us stronger right? Well, in your moment of strength, those tiny pieces that have become the casualties of whatever broke you, are gone! Your only hope is to pick up the pieces that remain and move on. This is when the reality of deciding IF the capacity to be happy again and become stronger to move beyond those hurt is truly there.

 

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Finding What Love Means To You

The problem is; We look for someone to grow old together, While the secret is to find someone to stay a child with! -(Charles Bukowski)

As adults, many times we take love for granted and never appreciated it until it’s gone. We trade love for pleasure, currency and satisfying the ego. When we fall in love we want it to last forever but somewhere along the way we forget the true meaning of love and that love gets lost, sometimes it even fades. Maybe instead of asking, ‘what can love can do for me?’ You should be asking, ‘what does love mean to me?’

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What’s Your Love Language?

“love is always a choice.”
― Gary Chapman

Love is a fragile thing. Many times people have no clue how fragile of a thing it is until it’s gone. When people think about love, they think of hugging, taking care of their partner, and maybe spending some quality time together. What we don’t think about,  is how to keep the novelty alive, how to keep the fires burning. There are so many ways in which we express love, but sometimes the love language expressed isn’t one the other person understands. One person can be speaking the language of caregiving, this is the most common language for a long-term partner, husband, fiance, or boyfriend and the other person is craving some other language. This is when both parties get lost in translation. What happens when the language becomes so ordinary that the other person gets completely lost in your language and finds another’s love language more stimulating? The language of affirmation, excitement, quality time!  You should never assume that taking care of your partners is enough to keep them interested, happy, or satisfied. There’s always something more that people crave, sometimes they don’t even know what this craving is until it’s offered to them by someone else, then that Ah-Ha moment hits, and they realize, this is how I want to feel for the rest of my life.

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6 Things to Remember When You’re Feeling Distracted

Chase that passion which lights up your soul like a billion stars. Once you keep mastering your passion, the passion will get the ball rolling to ignite your life with an unstoppable passion. Your inner gifts and passions have the power to conquer all the challenges & difficulties.

There are many things that I’m passionate about, however, the one thing that I’m most passionate about is writing. I love the way my words dance in my head and flow on paper. Then there’s the evilness of procrastination and that old imposter syndrome that is always there nudging me to push that passion aside to binge-watch the latest Netflix series or surf the internet for random facts or pop in on my family on social media and before you know if my day has gone. I can blame work for not having enough time in the day, I can blame my endless commitment to family, I can blame the rainy days for clouding my creativity.  If I want to be honest, the only person I can blame is the one looking back at me in the mirror. 

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Infatuation vs Love

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Infatuation is not quite the same thing as love; it’s more like love’s shady second cousin who’s always borrowing money and can’t hold down a job.
― Elizabeth Gilbert

A huge part of the adolescent years and sometimes well after, it’s easy to become captivated by someone. That boy or that girl that made your heart race, your palms sweat, and made beautiful fantasies run through your head. The thought of that person just took your breath away and life without them seemed impossible. You would give up your world to be with them as the desire becomes more and more intensified through each waking perception of them, their face, their smile, what they must smell like, the tone of their voice. It all makes it so easy to fall head over heels because at the moment nothing else or no one matters. In our youth it’s innocent, older, it can be life-changing, sometimes destructive because the only thing that matters is being with that person you hold that deep infatuation for. Merriam – Webster defines infatuation as a ” feeling of foolish or obsessively strong love for, admiration for or interest in someone or something.”

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The Impact of Trauma in Our Lives

Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone.
― Fred Rogers

All life experiences leave their mark. They impact our lives in negative or positive ways, they change the way we see ourselves and how we view the world. It’s impossible for someone to go through a traumatic event in their life without their body or brain reacting to that trauma, it can be a change as subtle as no longer having the taste for your favourite food, to something as big as walking away from family, friends or even relationships. Trauma can impact someone in ways even they find it hard to comprehend. It can also bring forward old habits that were buried.

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4 Things You Have No Control of In Life

There are many things in life we have absolutely no control over, though we may think we have and wish we have, we really don’t. You may think you are in control because you are leaving behind something old for something new, a happy more exciting life. But life has a way of tossing us a curveball, snapping us back to the reality that we are not in control. 

The only thing you have control over is yourself. Only you have control over your attitude, actions and decisions. Trying to decide on how to fist someone else’s problems or exhausting yourself trying to control the narrative is tiresome and a waste of energy. You have to learn to let go of these four things in life, simply because they are completely beyond your control.

1. Relationship: Marriage or romantic we have absolutely no control over our partners. When a relationship breaks, it’s always the what, why, how. But simply put, it takes two people to make any relationship work. When one of those people decide to take their life in a new direction. All that’s left is for the other person to forgive, forget and move on.  It’s painful to trash a relationship sometimes but you can’t make someone want you. For your own peace of mind, you have to let go and create a future alone. This is the advice I’ve always given to anyone who cried on my shoulder, however, your own pill is more difficult to swallow. 

2. Change: Unfortunately, everything in life changes. Even the good things turn bad, but bad things can also change to good. The beautiful thing about change is, nothing ever stays the same, you just have to learn to go with the flow of the changes.

3. The Past: Yesterday is gone, you cannot change what has already happened, what you can do is not let that past destroy your future. It will be difficult to leave the pain of the past in the past, but don’t let yesterday’s hurt or mistakes ruin your future. The healing process will be a hard and difficult one but you must heal yourself in order to move forward with a future you deserve. Let of those past mistakes, embarrassing memories, the heartbreak, the pain. It’s never easy but it will be worth it. Hold on to those beautiful memories of the past and allow them to fuel your passion to move forward. 

4. The Future: Not sure this should be on the list here because our actions have consequences, whatever decisions you make right now. Will determine your future. That Jelly Donut will determine how hard you have to work out in the future. While on the other hand, you can the best-laid plans for landing that perfect job, creating a perfect relationship and it can all fall to pieces. So, hard as we may, the future isn’t really something you can control. I have this out the hard way.

Pinned Message: We may think we’re in control of every aspect of our existence but we’re all just prisons of life.

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