All the people in your life are truly doing the best they can with what they have. People can only love you to the capacity that they are able to love themselves. They can only forgive and embrace you to the capacity that they are able to forgive and embrace themselves. They can only give you what they have the capacity to give. You may think that you deserve more, and you may be correct. But that means nothing if a person simply doesn’t have the ability to give it to you. ~ Lisa Nichols
I’m no to stranger loss. Loss of family, friends, things. Some losses are harder to deal with than others, my father passed away after I moved away from home, when I said my goodbyes to him, I didn’t realise that I was really saying goodbye. In the past few months, we’ve lost a lot of branches from our family tree, the old, the young, those yet to be born have all made their transition to the great beyond.
“Don’t allow your wounds to turn you into the person you’re not”
Those few months have forced me to step outside my social bubble and make some changes in my life, changes which led to the way I view the world and people. These changes have also reflected on the way I handle certain situations that would’ve otherwise set me on fire. I have learned to view aspects of my life differently as well gain a more positive opinion on anything that comes my way. In the midst of all the pain of loss, those changes helped me stay grounded, they gave me a better sense of purpose. For that I’m grateful.
It’s been a few months since I’ve done any blogging, in those months I reflected on whether or not I should keep my blog going. I’m now working from home, having both daughters at home during that time after all Universities here went from Face2Face to online studies didn’t help much because when I wasn’t working a huge chunk of my time was spent, proofing, editing and assisting them in research, which left very little time to do anything else. The WordPress upgrade didn’t help much either because it meant having to work my way through learning the new set up. The initial purpose of this blog was to help motivate me to write more, however, in the past few years, I haven’t written much, except for my books, which I’m still plodding through, and a few bits of poetry, here and there. But over the years my blog grew into something beyond being a motivational tool into a space where others also found motivation, inspiration and reflection as more and more people started following my blog, many of whom have reached out to me at some point to say how much they enjoy my blog. I appreciate you!!
Clearing out my inbox and going through a few of those emails made me realize that this blog was not just about me. It’s also about the people who take time out of their day to read what I have to say and hopefully what you read resonates you in someway. So many times we go through life without a second thought about anything or anyone who are not in front of us, we ignore the unseen and at times forget that the world exists outside of the bubble we’ve created for ourselves. During the busyness of the past few weeks, I was reminded that the people who cross our paths, whether virtually or real life are by their own rights, extraordinary. Those extraordinary people can do and say extraordinary things that can have a drastic effect not only on their own lives but also the lives of those they’ve touched. To anyone reading this right now, you are extraordinary and I appreciate you! I may drop off the radar now and then but I am still here, reading your blogs and your comments.
We do not get to choose how we start out in life. We do not get to choose the day we are born or the family we are born into, what we are named at birth, what country we are born in, and we do not get to choose our ancestry. All these things are predetermined by a higher power. By the time you are old enough to start making decisions for yourself, a lot of things in your life are already in place. It’s important, therefore, that you focus on the future, the only thing that you can change.” ― Idowu Koyenikan,