Building Resilience

The world is not interested in the difficulties you face. You must learn to pursue excellence and show remarkable resilience no matter the circumstances.”
~Germany Kent

How Resilient are you? We associate resilience with being able to consistently cope with hardships, pushing ourselves to the limit without a physical or emotional breakdown. In truth, resilience is the ability to recover quickly from hardships or stress. It’s not about pushing yourself and pushing yourself, it’s not about a test of strength. It’s about our ability to adjust and preserve ourselves while still having the emotional capacity to function, it’s not about stamina. 

Resilience doesn’t ease the pressures of life’s difficulties, it allows us to understand the setbacks, make the necessary adjustments to deal with those setbacks, and reevaluate our next move. We build resilience through trial and error and by constantly evolving. Once you understand what works and what doesn’t work for you, it becomes easier to pick up the pieces when things fall apart. Resilient people create a coping mechanism that helps them deal with a crisis more effectively.

4 Ways you can build Resilience

1. Manage Stress Trigger- This can be difficult especially when the unexpected happens. Learning to manage stress will help you become more resilient, allowing you to mentally bounce back after going through difficult, sometimes, life-changing situations. 

2.  Take Action-learn to deal with your problems instead of waiting for them to magically disappear. Work on resolving issues before they escalate into something so overwhelming it sends you into a tailspin. Pause, Reflect,  Take Action!

3.  Challenge Yourself- A sharp mind leads to a resilient mind. Learn a new skill, remain focus on your goals. It’s not about how long you can stay in the race but rather how well you run your race. Life is about learning and you’re never too old to learn something new.  We all have our own timelines, while someone may be finishing their race, yours may have just begun. Remember you don’t have to race to the finish line, make the necessary adjustments to achieve your goals, without sacrificing yourself in the process.

4. Self-Confidence- If you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will!! The most important part of building resilience is self-confidence. How can you cope with what life throws at you if you don’t believe in your own ability to overcome? Self- Confidence is not about being boastful, it’s about being able to respond and deal with a crisis. For every positive thought, there are dozens of negative thoughts that overshadow those positive tones recognize the difference, replace the negative with the positive.  

Pinned Message: You never know how strong you are, until being strong is all your only choice! Resilience is not something that’s built overnight, it takes time and effort. Life can sometimes be a struggle for all of us and sometimes our coping mechanism may take a while to kick in but don’t be discouraged if you find yourself struggling. I think this past year has made us all more resilient, you just have to stay in that zone of evolution.

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©Etta  D. Richards

You’re Going To Lose People Along The Way

And it will hurt like hell….You’re going to lose people along the way people you thought you’d never lose. People you truly believed would always be there and it’s going to hurt like hell. But that, my friend, is life. People change, relationships change.

Some evolve. Some disintegrate. Some people leave through no will of their own and that hurts the most. They didn’t want to go. But you, you will survive it all. You will. You will look back and realise that the people you need, really need, are still here, in some soul connective way.

And that the other relationships you lost along the way, have taught you something that made you better.

And that’s life. Hold close those who are in your life now and remember the ones who left, fondly. Even the ones who broke your heart.

Regret nothing. Use the feelings of pain to commit to a life here and now, a life where you take no one or nothing for granted. Where you cherish every minute with those people you love.

You’re going to lose people along the way, my friend.But that is life.Every minute counts.

Source: ‘To the Women’ by Donna Ahsworth

How To Deal With Disappointments

“Disappointment is a blessing. If you were never disappointed, you’d never know what was important to you.”
― Kamand Kojouri

Unless you live in a vacuum or totally off-grid without human contact, people will disappoint you. Our days flow according to our expectations and so does our disappointments. Time has always been a commodity, the more things you have to do the less time you seem to have and people now more than ever guard their time jealously. While there’s not much you can do about people disappointing you, you can do something about how quickly you bounce back. It’s hard when someone disappoints you, whether it’s a trusted friend or colleague tossing you under the bus and hitting reverse speed, a dinner date cancelling last minute or family members who you thought would always have your back suddenly not there when you need them most. Life is filled with disappointments and you have a choice in your reaction to those disappointments.

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Life Itself Is a Song

The real truth is that this world is nothing less than a limitless sea of happiness, the vastness and glory of which we are just beginning to know. And life itself is a song, while time is one eternal symphony. To be in tune with life, therefore, and to be in harmony with the endless music of time, we must of necessity be glad. But after we have learned to be glad, under every circumstance, it is no longer a necessity; it is a privilege, and has become a part of our active, living, thinking self. Just be glad, and you always will be glad. You will have better reason to be glad. You will have more and more things to make you glad. For great is the power of sunshine, especially human sunshine. It can change anything, transform anything, remake anything, and cause anything to become as fair and beautiful as itself. ~ Christian D. Larson

Every Stage Of Life Demands A New You!

No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it’s not the same river and he’s not the same man.

Heraclitus

Sometimes life breaks us, sometimes it bends us as every stage of your life requires a different you. The person you were yesterday is not the same person you are today or the person you will be tomorrow because something is going to happen that will require a different you. It could be a new job, marriage, becoming a parent, it could be being diagnosed with some life threatening disease or a bad break.  Change is inevitable, we can’t stop it. Life happens to all of us and when it does our lives are forever changed, it forces us to shift our way of thinking, our way of life. For me, this has never been more evident than now. I think, no, I know, I have changed more in the past few months than I have in the past year. I never expected my life to change to drastic, if there was a choice, it would’ve been a definite NO for me. This year demanded drastic shift,  a new me! This was not optional and it came without warning. But that’s life!


The difficult part is, when life demands a new us, there are people around us who are still expecting us to remain the same. Never compromise your peace for the sake of keeping a relationship that doesn’t support you! The whole point of your transformation is for you to prepare you for whatever life has thrown your way. There’s no time to comprise your values to accommodate those people who can’t accept the new you. Trust that life will bring people to you that will accept, and appreciate the new you, support  you during your time of struggle, and  celebrate you during your time of achievements.  Understand that pain is temporary but the  change is permanent, until you’ve come to the next stage that requires a new you because on this journey we’re in a continuous cycle of growing, becoming better and wiser. 

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21 Day Mindful Meditation: We’ve Come To The End of Our Journey!

Once again congratulations on finishing your 21-day mindful meditation for growth, gratitude and abundance! This may be the final day of our Journey but it doesn’t have to be the final day for any of you. I first received the 21 Days of Abundance Meditation Challenge from a friend on Facebook! Trix invited me into her group to share the message, frequency, and miracles! I later learned that the program is for sale by the Chopra Centre for Wellness, so I’m extremely grateful to Trix for sharing this with me free of charge, which in turn allowed me to share with so many of you. I’ve been a sign-in member of the Chopra Centre online since 2014, I have found many programs there available both to purchase and for free that been so beneficial to me.

One of the instructions on day 5 for starting your own group was to choose a profile photo that symbolises abundance to you, I choose the one above for my Facebook group wen I started it last year because the countless stars and the moon reflects the endless abundance of the Universe. The boy reaching for towards the stars serves as a reminder that the Universe conspires to give us whatever we ask for, that everything is energy and we are all transmitters. If you take nothing else away from this 21-day journey, take with you the wisdom of knowing you are loved and that energy flows where attention goes! A friend of Trix invited her to her group, and she in turn took up the call to start her group and was able to transmit growth, gratitude and abundance to countless others. What was a wonderful display of vibration! 

As we leave this journey, remember my blog is always open, you will always find the postings from the past 21 days to continue where you left off, to share with others or to begin. Prior to revisiting these sessions, I often used the meditation videos in my daily routine, so the information is there to use as you please. Remember, there is no pressure or judgment in this process, do as you are led and may you always grow in abundance, gratitude and love! Thank you again for accepting my call to join me on the journey.

🙌🥰Namaste