No One Deserves Your Love, More Than You Do!

You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.

Sharon Salzberg

Diary of a Not So Mad Black Woman

She needed a hero, so she become one

~Anonymous.

I keep my blogs as neutral as possible. Never swaying one way or another, just keeping it open to all mindsets. A lot of what I write comes from experience and inner expressions. This past year and a half, I’ve had some experiences of life, like all of you, I’ve experienced the impact of a global pandemic. But the past few months, I’ve experienced the impact cancer can have on, not only its victim but their family as well.  Many times it’s the patient that received the care and attention, with the family being left out.  Taking stock of my own well-being and emotional health, I’ve come to the realisation that women are always pushing themselves to do more, be more and be all to everyone. More so for Black women or women of colour as we’re expected to go that extra mile. History had shown us that there is a popular misconception that we are stronger, both physically and mentally, that we can handle anything thrown at us. What’s so unfortunate about this is, this has given many of us a false sense of being Superhuman because many have bought into this misconception.  I myself included! It would be hypocritical of me to say that I have not bought into the be-all, do more, be everything to everyone mindset.

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13 Ways to Invite Happiness into Your Life

The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.
~Marcus Aurelius

We each aspire to attain that feeling of true happiness. We may experience mood swings caused extreme sadness and grief to depression and loneliness but our craving for happiness is always present. Our thoughts are powerful, they control how we react to what life throws at us. Though it’s something we crave, we struggle to attain happiness because life is unpredictable and it’s easy to be crippled by the sadness, grief, depression and loneliness that comes from life events or situations we may find ourselves having to confront. 

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Pain is A Part of Life

Pain is a part of life. Sometimes it’s a big part, and sometimes it isn’t, but either way, it’s a part of the big puzzle, the deep music, the great game. Pain does two things: It teaches you, tells you that you’re alive. Then it passes away and leaves you changed. It leaves you wiser, sometimes. Sometimes it leaves you stronger. Either way, pain leaves its mark, and everything important that will ever happen to you in life is going to involve it in one degree or another.
~Jim Butcher

Building Resilience

The world is not interested in the difficulties you face. You must learn to pursue excellence and show remarkable resilience no matter the circumstances.”
~Germany Kent

How Resilient are you? We associate resilience with being able to consistently cope with hardships, pushing ourselves to the limit without a physical or emotional breakdown. In truth, resilience is the ability to recover quickly from hardships or stress. It’s not about pushing yourself and pushing yourself, it’s not about a test of strength. It’s about our ability to adjust and preserve ourselves while still having the emotional capacity to function, it’s not about stamina. 

Resilience doesn’t ease the pressures of life’s difficulties, it allows us to understand the setbacks, make the necessary adjustments to deal with those setbacks, and reevaluate our next move. We build resilience through trial and error and by constantly evolving. Once you understand what works and what doesn’t work for you, it becomes easier to pick up the pieces when things fall apart. Resilient people create a coping mechanism that helps them deal with a crisis more effectively.

4 Ways you can build Resilience

1. Manage Stress Trigger- This can be difficult especially when the unexpected happens. Learning to manage stress will help you become more resilient, allowing you to mentally bounce back after going through difficult, sometimes, life-changing situations. 

2.  Take Action-learn to deal with your problems instead of waiting for them to magically disappear. Work on resolving issues before they escalate into something so overwhelming it sends you into a tailspin. Pause, Reflect,  Take Action!

3.  Challenge Yourself- A sharp mind leads to a resilient mind. Learn a new skill, remain focus on your goals. It’s not about how long you can stay in the race but rather how well you run your race. Life is about learning and you’re never too old to learn something new.  We all have our own timelines, while someone may be finishing their race, yours may have just begun. Remember you don’t have to race to the finish line, make the necessary adjustments to achieve your goals, without sacrificing yourself in the process.

4. Self-Confidence- If you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will!! The most important part of building resilience is self-confidence. How can you cope with what life throws at you if you don’t believe in your own ability to overcome? Self- Confidence is not about being boastful, it’s about being able to respond and deal with a crisis. For every positive thought, there are dozens of negative thoughts that overshadow those positive tones recognize the difference, replace the negative with the positive.  

Pinned Message: You never know how strong you are, until being strong is all your only choice! Resilience is not something that’s built overnight, it takes time and effort. Life can sometimes be a struggle for all of us and sometimes our coping mechanism may take a while to kick in but don’t be discouraged if you find yourself struggling. I think this past year has made us all more resilient, you just have to stay in that zone of evolution.

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©Etta  D. Richards