One smile has the power to… Calm fears. Soften stone walls. Warm a cold heart. Invite a new friend. Mimic a loving hug. Beautify the bearer. Lighten heavy loads. Promote good deeds. Brighten a gloomy day. Comfort a grieving spirit. Offer hope to the forlorn. Send a message of caring. Lift the downtrodden soul. Patch up invisible wounds. Weaken the hold of misery. Act as medicine for suffering. Attract the companionship of angels. Fulfill the human need for recognition. Who knew changing the world would prove so simple?” ~Richelle E. Goodrich
I was transformed the day my ego shattered, and all the superficial, material things that mattered to me before, suddenly ceased to matter.
At some point in our lives, more often than not, it’s during those naive teenage years, we wanted to change the world for the better. As adults many of us still do. My convictions to change the world were stronger, I’d say from age 13- 26, after that my rose colour glasses were shattered when I realised that in order to bring real change to the world, I had to change myself first. When someone says, “oh I’m out to change the world” Or ” I want to create a better world for my kids”……It made me wonder, what are they doing to create that change and are they looking within? How much time are they spending creating the change they wanted to see in the world? When we’re young the world is our oyster which brings some truth to that adage, “youth is wasted on the young” because until we understand what life is really about and what WE really want out of life, there is no changing it.
I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness, it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude. -Brene Brown
Age doesn’t always bring wisdom but when it does, it comes with life lessons. With that wisdom we lean to see the lessons we wished we had learned when we were younger. Lessons that would have made us more appreciative and made life more easier. Unfortunately wisdom and the lessons life has to teach us are in retrospect, they come along after they’re needed, however, when they do come, they’re never wasted because they not only become beneficial to us but also those around us. With our new found wisdom we’re able to offer genuine guidance to others.
You’ll learn, as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your terms, and never, ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though EVERYBODY is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit in.
One of the best guides to how to be self-loving is to give ourselves the love we are often dreaming about receiving from others. There was a time when I felt lousy about my over-forty body, saw myself as too fat, too this, or too that. Yet I fantasized about finding a lover who would give me the gift of being loved as I am. It is silly, isn’t it, that I would dream of someone else offering to me the acceptance and affirmation I was withholding from myself. This was a moment when the maxim “You can never love anybody if you are unable to love yourself” made clear sense. And I add, “Do not expect to receive the love from someone else you do not give yourself. ~Bell Hooks