Diary of a Not So Mad Black Woman

She needed a hero, so she become one

~Anonymous.

I keep my blogs as neutral as possible. Never swaying one way or another, just keeping it open to all mindsets. A lot of what I write comes from experience and inner expressions. This past year and a half, I’ve had some experiences of life, like all of you, I’ve experienced the impact of a global pandemic. But the past few months, I’ve experienced the impact cancer can have on, not only its victim but their family as well.  Many times it’s the patient that received the care and attention, with the family being left out.  Taking stock of my own well-being and emotional health, I’ve come to the realisation that women are always pushing themselves to do more, be more and be all to everyone. More so for Black women or women of colour as we’re expected to go that extra mile. History had shown us that there is a popular misconception that we are stronger, both physically and mentally, that we can handle anything thrown at us. What’s so unfortunate about this is, this has given many of us a false sense of being Superhuman because many have bought into this misconception.  I myself included! It would be hypocritical of me to say that I have not bought into the be-all, do more, be everything to everyone mindset.

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The Colour of Racism

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Prejudice is a burden that confuses the past, threatens the future, and renders the present inaccessible. ~ Maya Angelou

Racism is learned behaviour no one is born a racist and for whatever reason, some people cling to it like they do religion, maybe it makes them feel safe. Maybe it makes them feel superior in some way. I’ve had people say to me, “Oh I’m not racist” yet they clutch their purse just a bit closer whenever a person of colour gets on the same elevator as them or they move a few rows down when a Muslim gets on the same bus. WE all have our own unconscious biases some more extreme than others but they’re undeniably there.

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Guest Post: Ebony And Ivory………The Loving Way by EttaD of Simply Etta

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EttaDAs borders become less concrete, people become more mobile and technology allows us to become increasingly exposed to those from diverse cultures, interracial relationships are becoming more and more common. That said, this doesn’t mean they are in any sense easy. There are still lots of raised eyebrows, dumbass questions and general prejudices that those in interracial relationships have to face each and every day.

In today’s special guest post Etta D, a blogger based in Scotland, who talks about her experiences of interracial relationships in the USA, UK and the Bahamas. She also provides insights into she (and her husband, Jeremy) deal with these obstacles. 

The uncomfortable twist, the silent gaze, the awkward conversations. I’ve experienced it all at home and abroad. Both in my past relationships and my current one.

I remember when my eldest was just a baby, this lady walked up to me while at a…

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An Unfathomable World

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This is a curious world. A world of weird behaviours. A world of stark differences. A world of mixed emotions and of multiple possibilities. A world where we don’t even know what is real and what is not.

These are strange times, where we no longer understand what is wrong and what is right. A time, where we just follow the stereotypes and try to fit in. A time in which everything is nothing but a cliché about something.

A very peculiar incident today made me realise the meaning of the quote:

We are all sinners, who judge others for sinning differently

If your normal guy makes a joke about something, it can be racist, it can be outrageous, it can be outright insulting. However, if the same joke is cracked by a comedian, whom you paid money to listen to, you laugh and clap with ecstasy. Uncanny, isn’t it?!

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