The need for significance is the emotional force behind much of our behavior. Life is driven by the desire for success. We want our lives to count for something. We have our own idea of what it means to be significant, and we work hard to reach our goals. Feeling loved by a spouse enhances our sense of significance. We reason, If someone loves me, I must have significance.
― Gary Chapman
Nobody has ever killed themselves over a broken arm. But every day, thousands of people kill themselves because of a broken heart. Why? Because emotional pain hurts much worse than physical pain.
― Oliver Markus Malloy
We can sometimes be our worst enemy. Lately, I have had more anxious days than days of serenity. My mind overflows with ideas, words of poetry and memories I would like to forget. But I have to remind myself that I’m only human. Time is a process that renews all things and time takes its time because putting the pieces back together when life kicks you down takes more effort than we think. It’s finding the effort and strength which can often prolong the healing process. A wish for us when something overwhelms us is that we can turn the clock back to a time when life was not so filled with anxiety and doubt, where peace of mind was a book or feel-good movie away. Where the best place to be was sharing a joke with your significant other.Continue reading “How You See Yourself is The Only Important Thing”
Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth loving.
― Gary Chapman
Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment. It is a choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up against the offender. Forgiveness is an expression of love. “I love you. I care about you, and I choose to forgive you. Even though my feelings of hurt may linger, I will not allow what has happened to come between us. I hope that we can learn from this experience. You are not a failure because you have failed. You are my spouse, and together we will go on from here.” Those are the words of affirmation expressed in the dialect of kind words.
― Gary Chapman
The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
Life is filled with painful moments, personal trauma and tragedy – like illness, the death of a loved one, loss of a job, or an unexpected breakup of a relationship. These can all leave their scars. They at times can break the spirit, mark the soul and leave the heart in a million pieces. What doesn’t kills us makes us stronger right? Well, in your moment of strength, those tiny pieces that have become the casualties of whatever broke you, are gone! Your only hope is to pick up the pieces that remain and move on. This is when the reality of deciding IF the capacity to be happy again and become stronger to move beyond those hurt is truly there.
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