When we’re incomplete, we’re always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we’re still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on–series polygamy–until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter. ~ Tom Robbins
I’m no to stranger loss. Loss of family, friends, things. Some losses are harder to deal with than others, my father passed away after I moved away from home, when I said my goodbyes to him, I didn’t realise that I was really saying goodbye. In the past few months, we’ve lost a lot of branches from our family tree, the old, the young, those yet to be born have all made their transition to the great beyond.
“Don’t allow your wounds to turn you into the person you’re not”
Those few months have forced me to step outside my social bubble and make some changes in my life, changes which led to the way I view the world and people. These changes have also reflected on the way I handle certain situations that would’ve otherwise set me on fire. I have learned to view aspects of my life differently as well gain a more positive opinion on anything that comes my way. In the midst of all the pain of loss, those changes helped me stay grounded, they gave me a better sense of purpose. For that I’m grateful.
We have to allow ourselves to be loved by the people who really love us, the people who really matter. Too much of the time, we are blinded by our own pursuits of people to love us, people that don’t even matter, while all that time we waste and the people who do love us have to stand on the sidewalk and watch us beg in the streets! It’s time to put an end to this. It’s time for us to let ourselves be loved. ~ C. JoyBell C.
“Unless you’re getting some sort of a reward for it, whether material or immaterial, don’t waste your precious energy on other people’s problems. You will either end up being their problem or theirs will become eternally yours. There’s no problem with leaving things just as they are. Nature always takes care of her own.” ― Kayambila Mpulamasaka