The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to. ― Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
There are many forms of grief! We grieve after a broken relationship, we grieve after the loss of a pet, but the most painful and lasting grief is that of losing a family member, the thought of going through life without that person can be brutal. Grief is a natural reaction to loss, it’s a coping mechanism that helps us deal with a loss and there is no right or wrong way to grieve because it hits everyone differently and though people say time heals all wounds, the grieving process is everlasting, the process will become easier but it will never go away. The finality of Death is biting, it feasts on our soul and at times can break us.
I keep my blogs as neutral as possible. Never swaying one way or another, just keeping it open to all mindsets. A lot of what I write comes from experience and inner expressions. This past year and a half, I’ve had some experiences of life, like all of you, I’ve experienced the impact of a global pandemic. But the past few months, I’ve experienced the impact cancer can have on, not only its victim but their family as well. Many times it’s the patient that received the care and attention, with the family being left out. Taking stock of my own well-being and emotional health, I’ve come to the realisation that women are always pushing themselves to do more, be more and be all to everyone. More so for Black women or women of colour as we’re expected to go that extra mile. History had shown us that there is a popular misconception that we are stronger, both physically and mentally, that we can handle anything thrown at us. What’s so unfortunate about this is, this has given many of us a false sense of being Superhuman because many have bought into this misconception. I myself included! It would be hypocritical of me to say that I have not bought into the be-all, do more, be everything to everyone mindset.
Every day God invites us on the same kind of adventure. It’s not a trip where He sends us a rigid itinerary, He simply invites us. God asks what it is He’s made us to love, what it is that captures our attention, what feeds that deep indescribable need of our souls to experience the richness of the world He made. And then, leaning over us, He whispers, “Let’s go do that together.” ~Bob Goff
Once again congratulations on finishing your 21-day mindful meditation for growth, gratitude and abundance! This may be the final day of our Journey but it doesn’t have to be the final day for any of you. I first received the 21 Days of Abundance Meditation Challenge from a friend on Facebook! Trix invited me into her group to share the message, frequency, and miracles! I later learned that the program is for sale by the Chopra Centre for Wellness, so I’m extremely grateful to Trix for sharing this with me free of charge, which in turn allowed me to share with so many of you. I’ve been a sign-in member of the Chopra Centre online since 2014, I have found many programs there available both to purchase and for free that been so beneficial to me.
One of the instructions on day 5 for starting your own group was to choose a profile photo that symbolises abundance to you, I choose the one above for my Facebook group wen I started it last year because the countless stars and the moon reflects the endless abundance of the Universe. The boy reaching for towards the stars serves as a reminder that the Universe conspires to give us whatever we ask for, that everything is energy and we are all transmitters. If you take nothing else away from this 21-day journey, take with you the wisdom of knowing you are loved and that energy flows where attention goes! A friend of Trix invited her to her group, and she in turn took up the call to start her group and was able to transmit growth, gratitude and abundance to countless others. What was a wonderful display of vibration!
As we leave this journey, remember my blog is always open, you will always find the postings from the past 21 days to continue where you left off, to share with others or to begin. Prior to revisiting these sessions, I often used the meditation videos in my daily routine, so the information is there to use as you please. Remember, there is no pressure or judgment in this process, do as you are led and may you always grow in abundance, gratitude and love! Thank you again for accepting my call to join me on the journey.
I began this journey last year with lots of self-doubt, excuses and hesitation but ended it with Gratitude, Abundance and Growth. I’m doing it all over again for pretty much the same reasons I did last year, my spirit at the time needed it!
As you complete this second and final week of your journey to Growth, Gratitude, and Abundance, be mindful of not only why you started this journey but also of what kept you going! You have waded through the distractions, you have ignored that inner voice of doubt that said, “I don’t have enough time to do this!” We go through life trying to race to one finish line after the next, racing from work to get home, racing around the home to get chores done, and racing the clock to do it all before bedtime.
Don’t add this to your list. Remember this is not a race!
My blog is always open to allow anyone who wants to come back to it to finish the 21 Day Journey. Honour your feelings, always do what you feel is best for you without judgment to self!
The past few years have been rough, I’ve found myself in another storm. A storm like all other, testing my faith and strength. One that has also made me question my own sanity and this year’s indeed the most challenging and nothing before has prepared me for the journey ahead. So I’m just riding each wave as it comes. I know I’m not unique in my circumstance but my reaction is, there is not a single soul on this planet that has not or will not go through some storm(s) that will make them question their existence. We are all pupils of life and what happens on that journey, how well we weather the storms in our lives depends on how well we’ve adjusted our sails. Most days I still find myself riding the waves of uncertainty but I adjust my sails accordingly because I know in the end my faith will continue to keep me strong, my family will continue to keep me grounded and hope will keep me going!
I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge. That myth is more potent than history. That dreams are more powerful than facts. That hope always triumphs over experience. That laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death. ~Robert Fulghum,
As the future is built in the present, and this future is always being shaped and transformed by the present, any imagined or foreseen future is nothing but tomorrow’s present. In this sense, it is more important how you observe your world today than what you will do tomorrow. The best decisions are always those which escape the imagination, do not correspond to the plans of the mind, but make perfect sense in a spiritual and emotional context. ~Dan Desmarques
A personality is dynamic. You will have many pulls and pushes, and impulses, driving you towards different elements in your life and forcing you to make choices during your existence on Earth. Some choices will be more related to your need to belong, others with your need for financial security and some others related to sexual impulses. But only the spiritual impulse can make you successful and happy. How to recognize it? Well, that is, quite simply, the impulse to make connections that last, changes that change you in return and as much as you should change in the right direction, and above all, it is found in the inner impulse towards the recognition of love. The consequences of refusing this spiritual dynamic are found in disappointment, loneliness, despair and a whole wasted lifetime that can’t be recovered and opportunities that will never be seen again. As you grow older, and your timing on Earth gets shorter, only an increased sense of spiritual self can help you recover whatsoever seemed lost in a miraculous way. ~ Dan Desmarques