All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players, they have their exits and their entrances and one man in his time plays many parts.
I often joke aboutreinventing myself and the response that comes back is, “again?”. Looking back at old photographs there’s been lots of reinventing and sometimes I wonder, where did she go and what is she doing now? Just as each stage in my life required a different me, I needed to be a different mindset to appreciate those stages. The 16-year-old me would have never appreciated the 20-year-old me. The 20-year-old me definitely would not have appreciated the 26-year old me. That 20 year old would’ve been scared shitless at the thought be becoming a Mom and guardian of another life. Now when I compare the image looking back at me, to imagines in those photographs of me at 16, 20, 30, even 40. None compares to this 50+year old soul I see staring back at me.
This infinite soul that knows the clock is ticking faster each day, that the hours can no longer be wasted on frivolous actions that won’t bring it joy, peace or happiness. Call it intuition, call it a survival mechanism but at some point in our lives, reinventing ourselves no longer becomes an option, it becomes mandatory. Why? Because we cannot spend the rest of our time on this Earth acting the same scene we’ve been acting during our first, second or third acts.
I was transformed the day my ego shattered, and all the superficial, material things that mattered to me before, suddenly ceased to matter.
At some point in our lives, more often than not, it’s during those naive teenage years, we wanted to change the world for the better. As adults many of us still do. My convictions to change the world were stronger, I’d say from age 13- 26, after that my rose colour glasses were shattered when I realised that in order to bring real change to the world, I had to change myself first. When someone says, “oh I’m out to change the world” Or ” I want to create a better world for my kids”……It made me wonder, what are they doing to create that change and are they looking within? How much time are they spending creating the change they wanted to see in the world? When we’re young the world is our oyster which brings some truth to that adage, “youth is wasted on the young” because until we understand what life is really about and what WE really want out of life, there is no changing it.
I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness, it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude. -Brene Brown
Age doesn’t always bring wisdom but when it does, it comes with life lessons. With that wisdom we lean to see the lessons we wished we had learned when we were younger. Lessons that would have made us more appreciative and made life more easier. Unfortunately wisdom and the lessons life has to teach us are in retrospect, they come along after they’re needed, however, when they do come, they’re never wasted because they not only become beneficial to us but also those around us. With our new found wisdom we’re able to offer genuine guidance to others.
You’ll learn, as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your terms, and never, ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though EVERYBODY is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit in.