It’s been a few months since I’ve done any blogging, in those months I reflected on whether or not I should keep my blog going. I’m now working from home, having both daughters at home during that time after all Universities here went from Face2Face to online studies didn’t help much because when I wasn’t working a huge chunk of my time was spent, proofing, editing and assisting them in research, which left very little time to do anything else. The WordPress upgrade didn’t help much either because it meant having to work my way through learning the new set up. The initial purpose of this blog was to help motivate me to write more, however, in the past few years, I haven’t written much, except for my books, which I’m still plodding through, and a few bits of poetry, here and there. But over the years my blog grew into something beyond being a motivational tool into a space where others also found motivation, inspiration and reflection as more and more people started following my blog, many of whom have reached out to me at some point to say how much they enjoy my blog. I appreciate you!!
Clearing out my inbox and going through a few of those emails made me realize that this blog was not just about me. It’s also about the people who take time out of their day to read what I have to say and hopefully what you read resonates you in someway. So many times we go through life without a second thought about anything or anyone who are not in front of us, we ignore the unseen and at times forget that the world exists outside of the bubble we’ve created for ourselves. During the busyness of the past few weeks, I was reminded that the people who cross our paths, whether virtually or real life are by their own rights, extraordinary. Those extraordinary people can do and say extraordinary things that can have a drastic effect not only on their own lives but also the lives of those they’ve touched. To anyone reading this right now, you are extraordinary and I appreciate you! I may drop off the radar now and then but I am still here, reading your blogs and your comments.
“If you don’t have a dream how are we going to make a dream come true?”
I’ve always dreamt of being a writer. I also dreamt of being a pilot but that writer inside of me kept poking me in the side. Besides flying, lessons were way more expensive. My favourite subject in school was always in English because we had to write Essays or short stories which fueled my imagination. One of the reasons I started this blog was to encourage me to write more in hopes that it would foster the completion of my books. While I am disciplined in keeping up with my blog, I have not been so disciplined in finishing my book. The words are there, the end is in sight, now if I can just put those words on paper. That would be a huge accomplishment for me.
“It’s the people we hardly know, and not our closest friends, who will improve our lives most dramatically” ~Meg Jay
The more mature I become the less gregarious my nature. My inner circlehas become smaller but more meaningful, a few years ago it struck me that there were many people in my life who were simply just along for the ride. They brought nothing to the table and when they walked away they took more than necessary. We all know those people, the ones who always need a favour but is never available to return one.
“All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.” ~Brian Tracy
If you could achieve just one goal, what would it be? If you could do anything you wanted, or be whatever you wanted, what would you choose?
Achieving any goal involves being emotionally and physically dedicated to moving in the direction of that goal and aligning yourself with anyone or thing that can make that happen. There are unlimited resources available to you to achieve any goal you set for yourself. Once you ignore those goal-sabotaging roadblocks you manifest you can achieve anything you set your mind to.
“A wise man will make more opportunities than he finds.”
Most of you will be familiar with the proverb that “Opportunity Knocks Once.” This is just one of many paradigms we have been programmed into believing and it’s due to this belief that many people give up when they don’t succeed at something the first time. Throughout your life opportunity will present itself many times but the same opportunity will never present itself twice. Confusing? It’s not really that confusing if you look at it this way. You may have passed up an opportunity of working at a certain company. That single opportunity is gone, it won’t come again. But a similar opportunity could come later on, like the opportunity to start your own business or the opportunity to work for another company that feeds your desire for personal growth. Opportunities will continuously knock at your door, however, the same one never knocks twice. Life is like a house, it has many doorways with each leading to another room.
If you are the person who is actively seeking your goals, you will recognise the opportunities as they come your way. In my previous employment back home there were many opportunities for me to take a post in America. Due to family commitments and my own lack of self-confidence I turned the opportunity down. Years later, opportunity knocked again. This time it was taking me further away from family and friends and my self-confidence would again be challenged. There was much apprehension, it took me weeks to make up my mind to take such a huge leap. But I did because this time despite the fears my priorities had changed. With this change came the support I needed to embrace this new opportunity and the self-forgiveness for letting so many opportunities pass me by. I learned a long time ago that there are three types of people in this world-The those who make things happen. Those who stand by and watch things happen. Then there are those who wonder what happened. It’s up to you to choose the person you want to be.
This was my contribution to Debbie’s Forgiving Friday series,where she writes about and invite others to share their thoughts on Forgiveness, Self-Love and Personal Growth. Debbie, thank you and I am so grateful for the opportunity to contribute to your blog.