Six years ago we started our third and final Journey from Belgium to Scotland. We had made two trips prior, first to get a feel of the place, since neither of us had been here before we thought it would be nice to have a look around. The second was to view properties and finalise our lease. At the time of our first visit, we had no idea that it was mandatory for to view a property before signing a lease and our real estate agent refused to have us sign our lease remotely even if he thought the property was a fit for us. He wanted us to decide for ourselves. The trips were long, especially long for me since the longest drive I’d ever been on was a 5hour drive from Ohio to Pennsylvania decades before, that trip felt like torture so imagine a 9-hour drive from London to Edinburgh, adding to that journey, a 4hour drive from Liege to Calais with 45 in the Eurotunnel.Read more
Many of us have now found ourselves home working and can I just say, sometimes the struggle can get real. I have not been this happy to see Friday in a long time. My days have rolled into weeks, weeks into months and it had really gotten me into that feel for working from home. It was great to be able to walk the dog, indulge in the crisp morning air before starting work, it was a huge leap from having to roller skate around the house in the mornings before hitting the road for the office and at the end of the day, just as quickly as I was racing to the office, I was racing out of the office to get home. The past few weeks though it was beginning to feel like work was consuming my space. The office offered the luxury of walking out that door each day and leaving it all behind, Friday was my “Yay” day because the weekend was always just around the corner. However, working from home, made Friday just another day. Yes, the weekend was still there but there was really nothing special about Fridays. My home was now my office and I was simply walking away from my desk.Read more
The seed you plant today, will be the tree that gives you shade tomorrow.
~ West Indian Proverb
This was a popular saying of many back home and I never really appreciating the meaning myself. My grandmother took this to heart though, she sowed seeds of faith, seeds of generosity, seeds of wisdom and knowledge. She was also constantly telling us (my brothers and I) that the seeds she was sowing was not for herself, but rather for her children and grandchildren. Something my neophyte mind couldn’t comprehend. Why would a woman who had so little give so much of herself to others, often without reciprocation?
When I became an adult and had children of my own, without understanding the true meaning. I followed the same path…….Giving without expecting anything in return; many of my friends said I was encouraging laziness, that I was naive. But in actuality, nothing was given to anyone who didn’t need it. So my life of giving went on, until the time came when I could no longer give the way I wanted to. This week with a little help from a few good people, I learned the meaning of “the seeds planted today, will be the tree that gives shade tomorrow!’ As those seeds of faith, kindness and favour grew into trees that provided me the shade I needed during the storm. Life is a circle, what we send out eventual finds it way back to us, the kindness we show to others may not always return from the same hands, but rather from some other. We are all our brothers keepers, we are all connected through humanity and acts of selflessness. Continue to sow those seeds of Greatness and enjoy the shade of your labour.
©Etta D. Richards
When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.
Audre LordeRead more
I’m no to stranger loss. Loss of family, friends, things. Some losses are harder to deal with than others, my father passed away after I moved away from home, when I said my goodbyes to him, I didn’t realise that I was really saying goodbye. In the past few months, we’ve lost a lot of branches from our family tree, the old, the young, those yet to be born have all made their transition to the great beyond.
“Don’t allow your wounds to turn you into the person you’re not”
Those few months have forced me to step outside my social bubble and make some changes in my life, changes which led to the way I view the world and people. These changes have also reflected on the way I handle certain situations that would’ve otherwise set me on fire. I have learned to view aspects of my life differently as well gain a more positive opinion on anything that comes my way. In the midst of all the pain of loss, those changes helped me stay grounded, they gave me a better sense of purpose. For that I’m grateful.
©Etta D. Richards
It’s been a few months since I’ve done any blogging, in those months I reflected on whether or not I should keep my blog going. I’m now working from home, having both daughters at home during that time after all Universities here went from Face2Face to online studies didn’t help much because when I wasn’t working a huge chunk of my time was spent, proofing, editing and assisting them in research, which left very little time to do anything else. The WordPress upgrade didn’t help much either because it meant having to work my way through learning the new set up. The initial purpose of this blog was to help motivate me to write more, however, in the past few years, I haven’t written much, except for my books, which I’m still plodding through, and a few bits of poetry, here and there. But over the years my blog grew into something beyond being a motivational tool into a space where others also found motivation, inspiration and reflection as more and more people started following my blog, many of whom have reached out to me at some point to say how much they enjoy my blog. I appreciate you!!
Clearing out my inbox and going through a few of those emails made me realize that this blog was not just about me. It’s also about the people who take time out of their day to read what I have to say and hopefully what you read resonates you in someway. So many times we go through life without a second thought about anything or anyone who are not in front of us, we ignore the unseen and at times forget that the world exists outside of the bubble we’ve created for ourselves. During the busyness of the past few weeks, I was reminded that the people who cross our paths, whether virtually or real life are by their own rights, extraordinary. Those extraordinary people can do and say extraordinary things that can have a drastic effect not only on their own lives but also the lives of those they’ve touched. To anyone reading this right now, you are extraordinary and I appreciate you! I may drop off the radar now and then but I am still here, reading your blogs and your comments.
©Etta D. Richards
Self-sabotage is when we are excited about a goal, but we unconsciously create obstacles that directly prevent that the achievement of that goal.
For some women, being big, visible and powerful may unconsciously feel like a betrayal of their mothers and to relieve this unconscious guilt, they self-sabotage.
The connection between the Mother Wound and self-sabotage is rather complex. I’ll do my best to elucidate this connection in this blog article. (I suggest grabbing a cup of tea and sitting in a comfy chair. This is a long article!)Read more
You have the power to shape your life the way you want it to be. Every thought, every word, every action guides you with a purpose. And that purpose is to fulfil your destiny. Some may say you’re just a dreamer. But everything imagined began with a dream.
Prejudice is a burden that confuses the past, threatens the future, and renders the present inaccessible. ~ Maya Angelou
Racism is learned behaviour no one is born a racist and for whatever reason, some people cling to it like they do religion, maybe it makes them feel safe. Maybe it makes them feel superior in some way. I’ve had people say to me, “Oh I’m not racist” yet they clutch their purse just a bit closer whenever a person of colour gets on the same elevator as them or they move a few rows down when a Muslim gets on the same bus. WE all have our own unconscious biases some more extreme than others but they’re undeniably there.