15 Little Lessons in Life We Sometimes Ignore

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I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness, it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and  practicing gratitude.
-Brene Brown 

Age doesn’t always bring wisdom but when it does, it comes with life lessons. With that wisdom we lean to see the lessons we wished we had learned when we were younger. Lessons that would have made us more appreciative and made life more easier. Unfortunately wisdom and the lessons life has to teach us are in retrospect, they come along after they’re needed, however, when they do come, they’re never wasted because they not only become beneficial to us but also those around us. With our new found wisdom we’re able to offer genuine guidance to others.

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The Pain of Grieving, The Joy of Remembering

The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to. ― Elizabeth Kubler-Ross 

There are many forms of grief! We grieve after a broken relationship, we grieve after the loss of a pet, but the most painful and lasting grief is that of losing a family member, the thought of going through life without that person can be brutal.  Grief is a natural reaction to loss, it’s a coping mechanism that helps us deal with a loss and there is no right or wrong way to grieve because it hits everyone differently and though people say time heals all wounds, the grieving process is everlasting, the process will become easier but it will never go away. The finality of Death is biting, it feasts on our soul and at times can break us. 

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The Importance of Healthy Relationships

Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.
― Muhammad Ali

I recently lost contact with two people who I categorised as friends, one of whom I’ve known all my life. The other, I met a few years ago but no matter where in the world any of us were, we kept in touch over the years.  To say I was bothered by it would be untrue, but it made me think, why was I not bothered by losing friendships that were once important enough to maintain for so many years? This brought me back to my own self, I know that not everyone is meant to continue your journey with you, some people are only meant to travel with you part of the way, once their time has ended, the ties are either severed by choice or circumstance. This is the truth that left me unbothered by their loss. 

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4 Truths People Sometimes Refuse to Accept

You couldn’t relive your life, skipping the awful parts, without losing what made it worthwhile. You had to accept it as a whole–like the world, or the person you loved.
~Stewart O’Nan


There is always a certain degree of struggle we go through every day, some are avoidable, some come from bad decisions that come from choosing to ignore what’s staring you in the face. There will always be things you don’t want to hear but must be said, some of these things may come from grandparents, parents, friends, even lovers. Sometimes we listen, sometimes they may in one ear and out the next. But the fragments that remains re what we need to take note because nothing ever gets completely sifted away, the know what the mind needs.

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13 Ways to Invite Happiness into Your Life

The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.
~Marcus Aurelius

We each aspire to attain that feeling of true happiness. We may experience mood swings caused extreme sadness and grief to depression and loneliness but our craving for happiness is always present. Our thoughts are powerful, they control how we react to what life throws at us. Though it’s something we crave, we struggle to attain happiness because life is unpredictable and it’s easy to be crippled by the sadness, grief, depression and loneliness that comes from life events or situations we may find ourselves having to confront. 

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How The Decisions We Make Impact Our Lives

The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.
Eleanor Roosevelt

These 50+ years of my life have been a magnificent roller coaster ride. During those years, I have loved, been in love, lost love, traveled to many countries of this world, meeting some amazing people along the way, some of whom I’ve remained in contact with over the years.  Throughout those years my experiences have expanded my mind in ways I never thought was possible, my experiences have also helped me to relinquish some limiting beliefs which I carried with me like a passport. Some of these beliefs that said, home was safe and change was bad, that success equaled a fat bank account and that I was not good enough to achieve what I wanted.

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Living In Gratitude: Seeing Something Good in Everything

He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has. – Epictetus

In a life full of chaos living in perpetual gratitude can be difficult but life can humble the noblest soul, it can strip us of our pride and has a way of bringing us to our knees, forcing us to be grateful for what we have instead of worrying over what we don’t have. 


Five months ago, we didn’t know where we would be. No one wants a Cancer diagnosis and it was the last thing any of us expected when my husband went in for his medical review that had been postponed due to Covid. In the midst of all the uncertainties, months of gruelling Chemo, and now what surgeons called a complicated surgery, gratitude has never been more prevalent in my life as it is right now, for the first time in a very, very long  time, perpetual gratitude seems to be within reach. They say when life gives you lemons, make lemonade. In this instance, when life tossed me lemons, I tossed them right back, with a few complementary choice words. 

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Building Resilience

The world is not interested in the difficulties you face. You must learn to pursue excellence and show remarkable resilience no matter the circumstances.”
~Germany Kent

How Resilient are you? We associate resilience with being able to consistently cope with hardships, pushing ourselves to the limit without a physical or emotional breakdown. In truth, resilience is the ability to recover quickly from hardships or stress. It’s not about pushing yourself and pushing yourself, it’s not about a test of strength. It’s about our ability to adjust and preserve ourselves while still having the emotional capacity to function, it’s not about stamina. 

Resilience doesn’t ease the pressures of life’s difficulties, it allows us to understand the setbacks, make the necessary adjustments to deal with those setbacks, and reevaluate our next move. We build resilience through trial and error and by constantly evolving. Once you understand what works and what doesn’t work for you, it becomes easier to pick up the pieces when things fall apart. Resilient people create a coping mechanism that helps them deal with a crisis more effectively.

4 Ways you can build Resilience

1. Manage Stress Trigger- This can be difficult especially when the unexpected happens. Learning to manage stress will help you become more resilient, allowing you to mentally bounce back after going through difficult, sometimes, life-changing situations. 

2.  Take Action-learn to deal with your problems instead of waiting for them to magically disappear. Work on resolving issues before they escalate into something so overwhelming it sends you into a tailspin. Pause, Reflect,  Take Action!

3.  Challenge Yourself- A sharp mind leads to a resilient mind. Learn a new skill, remain focus on your goals. It’s not about how long you can stay in the race but rather how well you run your race. Life is about learning and you’re never too old to learn something new.  We all have our own timelines, while someone may be finishing their race, yours may have just begun. Remember you don’t have to race to the finish line, make the necessary adjustments to achieve your goals, without sacrificing yourself in the process.

4. Self-Confidence- If you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will!! The most important part of building resilience is self-confidence. How can you cope with what life throws at you if you don’t believe in your own ability to overcome? Self- Confidence is not about being boastful, it’s about being able to respond and deal with a crisis. For every positive thought, there are dozens of negative thoughts that overshadow those positive tones recognize the difference, replace the negative with the positive.  

Pinned Message: You never know how strong you are, until being strong is all your only choice! Resilience is not something that’s built overnight, it takes time and effort. Life can sometimes be a struggle for all of us and sometimes our coping mechanism may take a while to kick in but don’t be discouraged if you find yourself struggling. I think this past year has made us all more resilient, you just have to stay in that zone of evolution.

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How To Deal With Disappointments

“Disappointment is a blessing. If you were never disappointed, you’d never know what was important to you.”
― Kamand Kojouri

Unless you live in a vacuum or totally off-grid without human contact, people will disappoint you. Our days flow according to our expectations and so does our disappointments. Time has always been a commodity, the more things you have to do the less time you seem to have and people now more than ever guard their time jealously. While there’s not much you can do about people disappointing you, you can do something about how quickly you bounce back. It’s hard when someone disappoints you, whether it’s a trusted friend or colleague tossing you under the bus and hitting reverse speed, a dinner date cancelling last minute or family members who you thought would always have your back suddenly not there when you need them most. Life is filled with disappointments and you have a choice in your reaction to those disappointments.

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Connecting With Our Emotions

“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.”
~Oscar Wilde

I have always been able to keep my emotions in check, I dislike crying because it gives me a headache, I especially don’t like that sullen feeling of sadness because it bruises the soul and hangs like a dark cloud overhead. You don’t know if the rain of tears is going to flow to a trickle or if there’ll be a thunderstorm. Unless you can claw yourself free from its temporary state of despair,  emotions can sometimes paralyze, trapping us in a vacuum of fear and doubt.  I can honestly say that for me, they make no sense because our emotions never do what we want them to do.  We try to suppress the tears but they come anyway. We try to suppress the love, grief, heartache but they still manage to express themselves even when you don’t want them to thus we are all slaves to our emotions.


This has not been an easy week, but there haven’t been many easy weeks since Cancer entered our lives back in February, it’s not the first time someone close to me has had to battle the disease but it still leaves me in a tailspin because it’s never easy seeing someone you love suffer through the treatments of the disease and dear I say, it’s not fair on either side. Not fair for the sufferer or the family having to watch it all unfold. This time it really feels like the straw that’s breaking the camel’s back. Most days it’s a struggle to keep my emotions in check as it has become an uphill battle of trying to maintain a work/ life balance and trying to keep up the appearances that all is well while my emotions are boiling just underneath trying to claw themselves out. What I’ve learned in these past few months is that even if you know what to do to keep yourself going, there are moments when the mind and body become so overwhelmed that everything we know that’s good for us, go out the window then everything starts to shut down and our emotions take over. A few times I’ve found myself overflowing in joy, gratitude, sorrow, sadness, love, fear, anger during the most inconvenient! Bu through it all I’m grateful.


Why do we need emotions that leaves us so vulnerable and raw? I come to the harsh reality that our emotions may not always make sense but they’re necessary and that they help us in ways we don’t always understand.  They help us to survive by forcing us to take action in situations that would otherwise pose a danger to our well-being. Emotions also work to help us understand those around us and help them understand us. They can’t be reasoned with, they won’t submit to logic and they our emotions are what makes us human, all we can do it rationalise our situation and determined the best response for the situation or situations we’re faced with.

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