There are many things in life we have absolutely no control over, though we may think we have and wish we have, we really don’t. You may think you are in control because you are leaving behind something old for something new, a happy more exciting life. But life has a way of tossing us a curveball, snapping us back to the reality that we are not in control.
The only thing you have control over is yourself. Only you have control over your attitude, actions and decisions. Trying to decide on how to fist someone else’s problems or exhausting yourself trying to control the narrative is tiresome and a waste of energy. You have to learn to let go of these four things in life, simply because they are completely beyond your control.
1. Relationship: Marriage or romantic we have absolutely no control over our partners. When a relationship breaks, it’s always the what, why, how. But simply put, it takes two people to make any relationship work. When one of those people decide to take their life in a new direction. All that’s left is for the other person to forgive, forget and move on. It’s painful to trash a relationship sometimes but you can’t make someone want you. For your own peace of mind, you have to let go and create a future alone. This is the advice I’ve always given to anyone who cried on my shoulder, however, your own pill is more difficult to swallow.
2. Change: Unfortunately, everything in life changes. Even the good things turn bad, but bad things can also change to good. The beautiful thing about change is, nothing ever stays the same, you just have to learn to go with the flow of the changes.
3. The Past: Yesterday is gone, you cannot change what has already happened, what you can do is not let that past destroy your future. It will be difficult to leave the pain of the past in the past, but don’t let yesterday’s hurt or mistakes ruin your future. The healing process will be a hard and difficult one but you must heal yourself in order to move forward with a future you deserve. Let of those past mistakes, embarrassing memories, the heartbreak, the pain. It’s never easy but it will be worth it. Hold on to those beautiful memories of the past and allow them to fuel your passion to move forward.
4. The Future: Not sure this should be on the list here because our actions have consequences, whatever decisions you make right now. Will determine your future. That Jelly Donut will determine how hard you have to work out in the future. While on the other hand, you can the best-laid plans for landing that perfect job, creating a perfect relationship and it can all fall to pieces. So, hard as we may, the future isn’t really something you can control. I have this out the hard way.
Pinned Message: We may think we’re in control of every aspect of our existence but we’re all just prisons of life.
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