When Relationships Let You Down….Don’t Let Yourself Down

People go in and out of our lives, during that time we have to take the bitter with the sweet. The happy with the sad and hope we are not broken in between. YNG

It’s a valid expectation that we expect our friends to uphold their word. Friends are always the first to offer their help when we’re in distress, or in need. We expect them to be that shoulder to cry on when romantic relationships breakdowns, that guest of honour when we through our pity parties,  that listening ear when life is unfair and that soothing voice that says, it’s ok! You’re going to be ok! We put so many expectations into friendships or any relationship for that matter, that it’s only natural to harbour a feeling of betrayal when those relationships do not live up to our expectations.

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Celebrating The Fanfare of Life

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Start each day with a positive thought and a grateful heart.
― Roy T. Bennett

Life is filled with celebrations. We celebrate pregnancy, and birth, and share a celebration of life when someone dies. How many times do we celebrate actual living? I know we live each day the cycle of eat, sleep, work, but what happens in between those hours? How are we living those hours? What is it that you’re doing right now to celebrate waking up this morning? Celebrations aren’t always about the fanfare, cake, balloons, cigars, or champaign. The simple act of gratitude, or doing something for yourself can be a celebration in itself.  With all, its wonderful thrills, love and laughter, and happy moments, Life itself is a fanfare.

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Hold The Faith and Guard Your Thoughts

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Do not come into agreement with fear. Activate your faith, live in victory, speak over your life and expect great things to come your way.
― Germany Kent

Keeping the faith during tough times can be difficult, even the firmest believers have their test of Faith many times during their lives.  During times of trials, we question everything, our existence, our purpose and our conscious self. Consciousness and Faith are two sides of the same coin, one is the determining factor of how well the other works. Faith reflects the quality of our conscious being. Some are alienated by the word faith because it signifies the acknowledgement of someone higher than themselves having control. It signifies the exitance of God! This is by no means a lesson on Religion, it’s far from it. It’s a lesson on finding your place, purpose and spirituality!

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Finding Your Purpose, Power and Path

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This was not meant to be a lesson in any form of Religion, but rather a lesson in faith, a lesson in Self and Self worth. For me, the road was long………This is not something that will happen overnight, nor is it something that will happen at the drop of a hat. First, you must want that change in your life, and then you must be determined to make that change happen. A change can be as simple as taking a new route to work, choosing brown shoes instead of black! Life is simple, how we live our lives makes it difficult to find our purpose, power and path.

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Don’t Wait for Perfect Moments

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
― Steve Jobs

I bet you’ve heard this before. Life doesn’t have to always be perfect for it to be great. We don’t always need perfect moments to appreciate life, all we need is a perfect attitude towards life. The perfect plan, perfect job, the perfect time to take a vacation…..Even though we know our time here is limited, we build our lives on perfect.

The mindset behind this thinking is what causes us to lose time, time with family, time with loved ones and time for ourselves. The only way to appreciate anything is to appreciate life. Take the vacation, make the most of that job until you find something better, if one plan doesn’t work, start over. Don’t spend your life waiting for perfect moments. Time waits for no one and one day you will run out of time.

Sometimes you’ll feel like you’ve got it all together but commitment is hard when you’re looking for perfection. Many days you will feel like you’re putting one step forward and two steps back, you will feel like nothing is going right, that life is just one huge bag of disappointments. But if you look closely, you’ll see how perfect life is. Even on a rainy day, there’s cause to smile. 

Life comes at you fast, in the grand scheme of things, even without perfection there is always hope. Grind it out, look past your need for perfection, remember, there are no flowers without rain, disappointments make success that much sweeter when it comes and life is never perfect unless you value it perfect. Don’t wait for perfect moments, look for something perfect in each moment!

4 Superpowers We Ignore

Your purpose is determined in large part by your unique superpowers: your gifts, talents, and abilities. Find them, and run with them. It will bless you and make you a blessing to others.
― Sebastien Richard

What is a Super Hero? I bet if you asked anyone that question they would someone with super human strength, they may even list a few of the following: 

Someone with X-ray vision

Someone who is faster than a speeding bullet

Someone who could Fly or breathe underwater

Well, Batman only has a cape, he really doesn’t have a superpower other than quick wit and nifty gadgets. But he’s considered a Superhero. We all possess Superpowers, in fact, we use some of them every day, they simply go overlooked. You don’t need to be super strong or have exceptional abilities to be a superhero because you already are. We use our superpowers every day. Our abilities are what give us these superpowers.

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How You See Yourself is The Only Important Thing

 

Nobody has ever killed themselves over a broken arm. But every day, thousands of people kill themselves because of a broken heart. Why? Because emotional pain hurts much worse than physical pain.
― Oliver Markus Malloy

We can sometimes be our worst enemy. Lately, I have had more anxious days than days of serenity. My mind overflows with ideas, words of poetry and memories I would like to forget. But I have to remind myself that I’m only human. Time is a process that renews all things and time takes its time because putting the pieces back together when life kicks you down takes more effort than we think. It’s finding the effort and strength which can often prolong the healing process. A wish for us when something overwhelms us is that we can turn the clock back to a time when life was not so filled with anxiety and doubt, where peace of mind was a book or feel-good movie away. Where the best place to be was sharing a joke with your significant other.

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4 Points to Consider When Looking to Change Your Life Story

No man has ever seen a turtle climbing the wall. In order to do the things which are impossible for you, you need to change yourself, and better still, transform yourself into something new!
― Mehmet Murat ildan

Often in life, even the best-laid plans at times need to be adjusted to accommodate the twists, turns, and bumps along the way.  There have been so many struggles in my life, too many to count and most I’d like to forget. I would like to say our struggles have made us stronger. But do they?  How does pain strengthen the soul? How do struggles strengthen the spirit? 

Each morning you get out of bed can be a struggle to find something positive to look forward to, even the happiest person you know, at the back of their mind sits some doubt, some fear of just being.  Some people are content with making the best of it, and some people look for an alternate life. They look on the other side of the fence and notice the view seems better,  we all long for greener pastures rather than working on the one that has comforted us for so many years.

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Turning Adversity Into An Advantage

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Life is filled with painful moments, personal trauma and tragedy – like illness, the death of a loved one, loss of a job, or an unexpected breakup of a relationship. These can all leave their scars. They at times can break the spirit, mark the soul and leave the heart in a million pieces.  What doesn’t kills us makes us stronger right? Well, in your moment of strength, those tiny pieces that have become the casualties of whatever broke you, are gone! Your only hope is to pick up the pieces that remain and move on. This is when the reality of deciding IF the capacity to be happy again and become stronger to move beyond those hurt is truly there.

 

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Finding What Love Means To You

The problem is; We look for someone to grow old together, While the secret is to find someone to stay a child with! -(Charles Bukowski)

As adults, many times we take love for granted and never appreciated it until it’s gone. We trade love for pleasure, currency and satisfying the ego. When we fall in love we want it to last forever but somewhere along the way we forget the true meaning of love and that love gets lost, sometimes it even fades. Maybe instead of asking, ‘what can love can do for me?’ You should be asking, ‘what does love mean to me?’

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