The mind is a wonderful thing. It’s also a total liar and an excuse machine that frequently tries to convince us not to take actions we know are good for us. In the end, this prevents many positive changes from taking place in our lives.
I’ve had to learn to watch these lies and excuses very carefully in order to make the positive changes I’ve made in my life: a healthier diet, regular exercise, meditation, more sleep, daily writing, better planning, less procrastination, more focus, etc.
If I hadn’t learned about these lies and excuses, and how to suppress them, I would never have succeeded in making these positive changes. In fact, until I knew better, I had failed countless times when I was young because my mind’s deceptive tendencies used to get the best of me.
“It’s only after you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grow, and transform.” ~Roy T. Bennett
Being a recovering procrastinator, self-motivator learner (is that a real term), I’m constantly reading and re-reading books on leadership and management. The popular misconception that they are only pertinent to success in your professional life or business; few people think to carry them into their personal life. But have you given that thought that, if you’re not the leader in your own life, then someone else most certainly will be and they’re not going to lead you in the direction you want to go, but rather in the direction they think you should be going? If you’re not managing your life the same applies.
“For last year’s words belong to last year’s language and next year’s words await another voice.” ~T.S. Eliot,
2020 has finally expired, no doubt people around the world held their breath as the old year rolled out and the New Year rolled in. 2020 was a difficult year for everyone, some of us faced disappointments, loss, near misses and all of us, whether directly or indirectly lives was touched by COVID. With the old year behind us, we should all face the new year with clear and honest resolutions to make the each moment count.
A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which read, “I am blind, please help. ”There were only a few coins in the hat – spare change from folks as they hurried past.A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. Then he put the sign back in the boy’s hand so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy.
That afternoon, the man who had changed the sign returned to see how things were.The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, “Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?”The man said, “I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way.” I wrote, “Today is a beautiful day, but I cannot see it.”Both signs spoke the truth. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind, while the second sign conveyed to everyone walking by how grateful they should be to see…When your life seems full of troubles, it seems difficult to maintain an attitude of gratitude, doesn’t it?
All we see are our problems, like a blackened storm cloud casting a dark shadow over our lives. And the times when everything just seems to be going smoothly? We often take these precious moments for granted too, don’t we? Caught up in the bliss, comfort, and familiarity of it all, we can simply forget to be thankful. So what, then, is gratitude?Simply put, gratitude is a habit. It’s a way of looking at the world and all the good things in it with a feeling of appreciation, regardless of whether or not your current situation is to your liking. Gratitude is a heart-centered approach to being at peace with yourself and with all you have. When you practice this feeling of gratitude, it attracts even MORE things into your life for which to be grateful.
Go ahead, try it out right now. What or who do you have in your life to be thankful for?
It’s nearly 1am here and I can’t remember the last time I’ve had a good night’s sleep. Ever since I could remember, insomnia has been my constant companion, it doesn’t matter what I’m going through in life, even during the best of times sleep evades me. Any given 15-minute nap will give me a 6-8 hr recharge, with age our batteries are supposed to slow down right? If only I could be so lucky.
What’s keeping me up at night: This night? The passing of my uncle. Another soul transitioned and I’m not there to support my cousins and family. Coming from a culture where family is everything, during times like these the distance is more evident. A phone just simply doesn’t suffice.
Most nights? Thoughts, ideas, reflection. Tonight I reflect on the holidays past. But then again I do this every Decemeber! Christmas has always been special because it was the time of year that everyone made their pilgrimage home. Christmas in The Bahamas used to be like Thanksgiving in America. It didn’t matter where you were in the world, Christmas Day would find you all under one roof sharing a feast. I long to experience that again. Right now, I’m just wishing for snow this Christmas, rain is just too wet!
Thoughts, my grandmother ofter offered me a penny for my thought! These days I really don’t get offered anything for my thoughts. Right now all I think about procrastination, the killer of all things creative!! Is it procrastination if your mind is consumed by procrastination?
Ideas, I have an idea to do something BIG! What is that something? I don’t know! There are just too many “Somethings” I want to do, it’s difficult to choose just one. But this something has to allow me to live comfortably, work from anywhere in the world, and visit home twice a year among other things!
It’s nearly 2am here and now I must reflect on the ceiling until dawn. 11/12/2020 01:58pm
Regardless of how far away you are from reaching your goals, how life or the world has treated you, don’t devalue your time by giving up, when you give up, you’re devaluing your time and all the work you’ve put into achieving your goal.
A man’s mind, stretched by new ideas, may never return to its original dimensions.
Oliver Wendell Holmes
Sometimes we’re tested not to show our weaknesses, but to discover our strengths.
The harder you work for something, the greater you’ll feel when you achieve it.
Inspiration exists, but it has to find you working.
Many of us have now found ourselves home working and can I just say, sometimes the struggle can get real. I have not been this happy to see Friday in a long time. My days have rolled into weeks, weeks into months and it had really gotten me into that feel for working from home. It was great to be able to walk the dog, indulge in the crisp morning air before starting work, it was a huge leap from having to roller skate around the house in the mornings before hitting the road for the office and at the end of the day, just as quickly as I was racing to the office, I was racing out of the office to get home. The past few weeks though it was beginning to feel like work was consuming my space. The office offered the luxury of walking out that door each day and leaving it all behind, Friday was my “Yay” day because the weekend was always just around the corner. However, working from home, made Friday just another day. Yes, the weekend was still there but there was really nothing special about Fridays. My home was now my office and I was simply walking away from my desk.
It’s been a few months since I’ve done any blogging, in those months I reflected on whether or not I should keep my blog going. I’m now working from home, having both daughters at home during that time after all Universities here went from Face2Face to online studies didn’t help much because when I wasn’t working a huge chunk of my time was spent, proofing, editing and assisting them in research, which left very little time to do anything else. The WordPress upgrade didn’t help much either because it meant having to work my way through learning the new set up. The initial purpose of this blog was to help motivate me to write more, however, in the past few years, I haven’t written much, except for my books, which I’m still plodding through, and a few bits of poetry, here and there. But over the years my blog grew into something beyond being a motivational tool into a space where others also found motivation, inspiration and reflection as more and more people started following my blog, many of whom have reached out to me at some point to say how much they enjoy my blog. I appreciate you!!
Clearing out my inbox and going through a few of those emails made me realize that this blog was not just about me. It’s also about the people who take time out of their day to read what I have to say and hopefully what you read resonates you in someway. So many times we go through life without a second thought about anything or anyone who are not in front of us, we ignore the unseen and at times forget that the world exists outside of the bubble we’ve created for ourselves. During the busyness of the past few weeks, I was reminded that the people who cross our paths, whether virtually or real life are by their own rights, extraordinary. Those extraordinary people can do and say extraordinary things that can have a drastic effect not only on their own lives but also the lives of those they’ve touched. To anyone reading this right now, you are extraordinary and I appreciate you! I may drop off the radar now and then but I am still here, reading your blogs and your comments.
There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses; only results.
Prejudice is a burden that confuses the past, threatens the future, and renders the present inaccessible. ~ Maya Angelou
Racism is learned behaviour no one is born a racist and for whatever reason, some people cling to it like they do religion, maybe it makes them feel safe. Maybe it makes them feel superior in some way. I’ve had people say to me, “Oh I’m not racist” yet they clutch their purse just a bit closer whenever a person of colour gets on the same elevator as them or they move a few rows down when a Muslim gets on the same bus. WE all have our own unconscious biases some more extreme than others but they’re undeniably there.