A Few More Things I’m Grateful For

As we find ourselves soon to say goodbye to yet another month and prepare to usher in the final month of the year I can’t help but to emotionally reflect on the past few months. Between the borage of hospital visits, trying to keep my sanity while juggling my commitment to family and work in between, I try to take the time each day to make, whether mentally or on paper, to make my life of things I’m grateful for.

1. Good Health, Life and the occasional bump in the road- These are the sum of all things. We are nothing without them.

2. Mitzy- she brought so much life to our family. She was my constant companion, who gave us all unconditional love, it still hurts to even think her name.

3. My daughters-I am grateful for their thoughtfulness and telepathic love.

4. My Mom- I’m just grateful that God had kept her with us and grateful for her love and selflessness.

5. My aunts- There are words for their unconditional love and support.

6. Doctors who work miracles!

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As the years pass, I am coming more and more to understand that it is the common, everyday blessings of our common everyday lives for which we should be particularly grateful. They are the things that fill our lives with comfort and our hearts with gladness — just the pure air to breathe and the strength to breath it; just warmth and shelter and home folks; just plain food that gives us strength; the bright sunshine on a cold day; and a cool breeze when the day is warm.
― Laura Ingalls Wilder

What do you find yourself grateful for as you reflect on the past 11 months of this year?

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Keep the Intentions that Fuels Your Desires

Intention is one of the most powerful forces there is. What you mean when you do a thing will always determine the outcome. The law creates the world.
― Brenna Yovanoff

There are many tragedies in life, the greatest of all I believe is abandoning your goals and the things you dream of. That ‘thing’ that stops us from following our hearts or abandoning our goals is usually so painful that it stops us in our tracks. It could be any ‘thing!’  Loss, like the passing of a loved one, the passing of a beloved pet, a bad breakup, that feeling of despair, because life’s not always fair, can be so crippling, it takes all the steam out of you.  

For some of us, that once vibrant soul, so full of energy, wishful dreams, hope, and joy, becomes vacant and discontent.  When we can no longer fuel our desires it’s difficult to keep our thoughts pure, each day becomes just that more difficult to cope with the world’s seemingly relentless urge to break our will and crush our souls into submission.  How do we keep the intentions that once fueled our desire for happiness, peace, joy, love? By remembering life has offered us no guarantees. The guarantees that we have imagined were created in our souls. 

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Work-Life Balance vs Work-Life Fit

It is not enough to be busy; so are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?” ~Henry David Thoreau

Wouldn’t it be a wonderful thing to have your work and life just fit into each other? Working full time it may seem impossible to achieve a healthy this. But it’s not and you can do it!

Why work-life fit and not balance? Work-life balance is the most common way we tend to identify with balancing what we do inside our normal life and what we do outside by way of work, recreation, taking care of family. When people think about work balance, they think about spending less time on the job and having more time free. Balancing work and private life, or family time is never easy, after all, we only have 24 hours in a day and 8 of those hours should be reserved for sleep!

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Be Inspired by Your Desire for More

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People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.

-George Bernard Shaw 


Fifteen years ago I left my job with no immediate plans for the future, I just knew there were things I wanted that my current job would never bring. In addition to that,  it was not good for my health because it demanded so much from me mentally and physically. It wasn’t good for my family because it took up huge junks of my time, I was leaving at the break of dawn and coming home just in time to feed my daughters and put them off to bed. I was missing the days of spending quality time with them, I had begun to miss those enjoyable days of spending time on the beach or just sitting in my mother’s back yard watching the coconut trees dance in the cool breeze. The experience of failure, adversity or heartbreak brings no excitement to our lives. There are no benefits to only dreaming about moments of joy that are stolen by a job that brought no real value to your life. So I moved on.

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Acting on Survival Instead of Impulse

Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is believing you’re worthy of the trip.”
― Glenn Beck

I’ve often heard motivational speakers and many life coach speak about their ‘low’ points as their turning point for success. They speak as if you HAVE hit rock bottom to realize your potential. We’ve all heard that tea bag proverb, where you really don’t know how strong you are, until you’re in hot water! Well I don’t fully agree with this, I think you have to be in hot water to reach your FULL potential until. And you don’t have to hit that low point to become successful, though it does help because when you have nothing to lose you tend to risk it all. You act on survival instead of impulse.

When you’re on top you feel that you have the world at you feet, of course you want to maintain that but your mind has hit its peak so you’re just working to maintain that balance at the top. A man on the street selling coconuts, his mind is always thirsty for more, more ways to sell his coconuts to make more money, more ways to better his conditions, he aspires to do more to have more. The man who is living in his Penthouse has a different thirst, his is that of luxury, style and maintaining his status. This is why there are many successful business persons and companies out there seeking fresh minds to bring them new ideas.

Whether you’ve hit your low or you’re riding that high. It’s not the lack of things that hinders success, or prevents you from maintaining that success. It’s the lack of awareness that prevents you from striving for something greater or holding on to that greatness once you’ve achieved it. The lack of awareness of our own worth; the lacking of self-worth and not knowing, feeling, and understanding that the ‘low’ allows your mind to open to new and better possibilities. Instead of just living the basic, you feed that thirst for something better, thus gaining momentum to better your conditions, enrich your live and become a success in whatever you do.

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The Pursuit of Gratitude!

Be mindful. Be grateful. Be positive. Be true. Be kind.
― Roy T. Bennett

Everybody wants to be happy, but happiness doesn’t come without gratitude, but it’s also impossible to be happy every day because there are so many painful and stressful moments in our lives which makes happiness so out of reach,  most days it’s hard to find or even begin to pursue gratitude because there seems to be nothing to be grateful for.


How can one find happiness when a friend or someone close to you totally flips the script and turns on you?


How can you be happy when you feel like your whole life is falling apart?


How can one find happiness when so many people around you are passing on?


Where is the joy in living one day to the next when you’re uncertain of where to put your foot next? 


Where is the joy in living a life that feels like you have absolutely no purpose?


Where is the joy in being so overwhelmed you feel so out of touch with everyone around you?

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Build Better Habits to Take You to the Next Act

All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players, they have their exits and their entrances and one man in his time plays many parts.

-William Shakespeare

I often joke about reinventing myself and the response that comes back is, “again?”. Looking back at old photographs there’s been lots of reinventing and sometimes I wonder, where did she go and what is she doing now? Just as each stage in my life required a different me, I needed to be a different mindset to appreciate those stages. The 16-year-old me would have never appreciated the 20-year-old me. The 20-year-old me definitely would not have appreciated the 26-year old me. That 20 year old would’ve been scared shitless at the thought be becoming a Mom and guardian of another life. Now when I compare the image looking back at me, to imagines in those photographs of me at 16, 20, 30, even 40. None compares to this 50+year old soul I see staring back at me. 


This infinite soul that knows the clock is ticking faster each day, that the hours can no longer be wasted on frivolous actions that won’t bring it joy, peace or happiness. Call it intuition, call it a survival mechanism but at some point in our lives, reinventing ourselves no longer becomes an option, it becomes mandatory. Why? Because we cannot spend the rest of our time on this Earth acting the same scene we’ve been acting during our first, second or third acts. 

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4 Truths That Bring Real Change in Our Lives

I was transformed the day my ego shattered, and all the superficial, material things that mattered to me before, suddenly ceased to matter. 

Suzy Kassem

At some point in our lives, more often than not, it’s during those naive teenage years, we wanted to change the world for the better. As adults many of us still do. My convictions to change the world were stronger, I’d say from age 13- 26, after that my rose colour glasses were shattered when I realised that in order to bring real change to the world, I had to change myself first. When someone says, “oh I’m out to change the world” Or ” I want to create a better world for my kids”……It made me wonder, what are they doing to create that change and are they looking within? How much time are they spending creating the change they wanted to see in the world?  When we’re young the world is our oyster which brings some truth to that adage, “youth is wasted on the young” because until we understand what life is really about and what WE really want out of life, there is no changing it. 

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15 Little Lessons in Life We Sometimes Ignore

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I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness, it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and  practicing gratitude.
-Brene Brown 

Age doesn’t always bring wisdom but when it does, it comes with life lessons. With that wisdom we lean to see the lessons we wished we had learned when we were younger. Lessons that would have made us more appreciative and made life more easier. Unfortunately wisdom and the lessons life has to teach us are in retrospect, they come along after they’re needed, however, when they do come, they’re never wasted because they not only become beneficial to us but also those around us. With our new found wisdom we’re able to offer genuine guidance to others.

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The Pain of Grieving, The Joy of Remembering

The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to. ― Elizabeth Kubler-Ross 

There are many forms of grief! We grieve after a broken relationship, we grieve after the loss of a pet, but the most painful and lasting grief is that of losing a family member, the thought of going through life without that person can be brutal.  Grief is a natural reaction to loss, it’s a coping mechanism that helps us deal with a loss and there is no right or wrong way to grieve because it hits everyone differently and though people say time heals all wounds, the grieving process is everlasting, the process will become easier but it will never go away. The finality of Death is biting, it feasts on our soul and at times can break us. 

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