Self-sabotage is when we are excited about a goal, but we unconsciously create obstacles that directly prevent that the achievement of that goal.
For some women, being big, visible and powerful may unconsciously feel like a betrayal of their mothers and to relieve this unconscious guilt, they self-sabotage.
The connection between the Mother Wound and self-sabotage is rather complex. I’ll do my best to elucidate this connection in this blog article. (I suggest grabbing a cup of tea and sitting in a comfy chair. This is a long article!)
“Let go of certainty. The opposite isn’t uncertainty. It’s openness, curiosity and a willingness to embrace paradox, rather than choose up sides. The ultimate challenge is to accept ourselves exactly as we are, but never stop trying to learn and grow.” ~Tony Schwartz
The problem for a lot of people is that they don’t really know what they want. They have a vague desire: to ‘do something creative’ or to earn more money or ‘to be free’, but they can’t really pin down what it is precisely that they want. So they drift from one thing to another, enjoying some moments and hating others, but never really finding fulfilment or success. This is why it’s hard to lead a successful life (whatever that means to you) when you don’t know what you want. ~John C. Parkin