All the people in your life are truly doing the best they can with what they have. People can only love you to the capacity that they are able to love themselves. They can only forgive and embrace you to the capacity that they are able to forgive and embrace themselves. They can only give you what they have the capacity to give. You may think that you deserve more, and you may be correct. But that means nothing if a person simply doesn’t have the ability to give it to you. ~ Lisa Nichols
I’m no to stranger loss. Loss of family, friends, things. Some losses are harder to deal with than others, my father passed away after I moved away from home, when I said my goodbyes to him, I didn’t realise that I was really saying goodbye. In the past few months, we’ve lost a lot of branches from our family tree, the old, the young, those yet to be born have all made their transition to the great beyond.
“Don’t allow your wounds to turn you into the person you’re not”
Those few months have forced me to step outside my social bubble and make some changes in my life, changes which led to the way I view the world and people. These changes have also reflected on the way I handle certain situations that would’ve otherwise set me on fire. I have learned to view aspects of my life differently as well gain a more positive opinion on anything that comes my way. In the midst of all the pain of loss, those changes helped me stay grounded, they gave me a better sense of purpose. For that I’m grateful.
And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” ~ Haruki Murakami,
We do not get to choose how we start out in life. We do not get to choose the day we are born or the family we are born into, what we are named at birth, what country we are born in, and we do not get to choose our ancestry. All these things are predetermined by a higher power. By the time you are old enough to start making decisions for yourself, a lot of things in your life are already in place. It’s important, therefore, that you focus on the future, the only thing that you can change.” ― Idowu Koyenikan,