“Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have—life itself.” ~Walter Anderson
Bad things happen to all of us, we have all been hit by misfortune, unfortunate events and circumstances, which makes us wonder, why bad things happen to good people! Life is often unfair in its givings At some point in our lives have been or will be affected by some dreadful circumstances or tragedies. When these things happen, It’s okay scream, shout, get angry, and feel sorry for yourself and your circumstance. I’ve thrown so many ‘Pity-Parties‘ I have a standing selection of Wine, Chocolate, A bed & Pillow . Not necessarily in that order, but those are at the top of my go-to list. But I know at some point I have to shake it off, release everything, and not become entirely consumed by it; because if I don’t, there’s no moving forward. I’d be stuck in my pity party, enveloped in its madness.
There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.
Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life. -Omar Khayyam
Daylight Savings Time starts tomorrow for us here, I’m often a Scrooge about having to change my clocks, spring forward, fall back always made me miserable because just as my body gets used to the way things are, it changes. This year I’m not going to be a Scrooge about it. Last year taught me some valuable lessons in appreciation as the simple liberties in life were stripped away from us almost overnight, this year have taught me an even bigger lesson in not only appreciation but in gratitude, happiness, love and family! I’ve learned that in even the darkest moments there is cause to be grateful and find happiness in the most simple acts. Many people think happiness is something unattainable to them, that life has to be going grand in order for them to attain happiness. I often felt an internal fear that the happiness I felt today would bring some sorrow for me tomorrow because of that, a lot of my days were spent worrying. Worrying of the simple hint of joy robbed me of so many happy moments.
“Tears are handy for washing away troubling and sad feelings. But when you grow up, you’ll learn that there are things so sad, they can never be washed away by tears. That there are painful memories that should never be washed away. So people who are truly strong laugh when they want to cry. They endure all of the pain and sorrow while laughing with everybody else.”
“If you know the why, then you know what you’re fighting for but sometimes the most important thing is not to ask God why. But to ask God to help you survive the ride.”
Throughout our time here on Earth, we will face many adversities, challenges will be put before us that makes us question everything. I know there have many challenges that have even made me questioned my sanity, there have also been adversities that made me just want to give up! However, the battle that we are currently facing gives me no option of giving up or losing my sanity, it has made me pause, reflect and reevaluate many aspects of my life or our lives. Cancer is not new to me, but each experience is new as is poses a different approach or how we deal with it and with each wave, I find myself riding the same emotional roller coaster, just in a different carriage with a different view.